I've lived in China a couple months now. I'm 23 years old, fit, clean cut, and I'm told I look like a standard clean cut American. I will spare the modesty and say that overall I think Chinese view me as very good looking. Not that I think I'm good looking, in America I'd say I'm average.
I recently went to a formal event. Something about a Wine House serving everyone Wine. A friend of mine brought me, and the amount of celebrity I received there was crazy. I don't mean that I was given no room to breath, but I feel like I can tell from subtle things. 1. People always refilling my glass. 2. They wait for me to sit before they sit. 3. The girls, regardless of beauty, make clear attempts to catch my attention. 4. Any direction I look has Chinese people looking back and, doing what seems to me to be, their best at creating the widest window available to speak with them. Basically if I look in their direction, they immediately look back as if giving me their attention should I desire it. 5. The lowest who is a guy maybe a year or two older than me basically stood up when I came to the table, and GAVE me his chair. I made an honest effort to bring up another chair so he could sit too, but it would have taken help, and the dude wouldn't leave me alone about just sitting and not worrying about it.
Not only this, but the star piano player, the staff, and the people sitting at other tables are quick to toast me.
Now, I realize this is normal in China. I'm not special, Chinese just really seem to enjoy the company of a white person. What I don't understand though, is why... and how on Earth should I act to all this? I'm glad that my company is enjoyed, and I am looking to build relationships, and improve on my network, but at the same time... what the fuck? I'm an average guy. I grew up on a ranch, I'm pretty smart, and I do admittedly have the look that Chinese seem to consider ideal, but I have completely no idea how to leverage my position because I have no idea what these people want from me, and why they seem to put me on the same level as a top CEO.
I know I don't deserve the treatment I'm receiving, and that's not to say I don't enjoy feeling special for a little bit, but how on earth do you guys deal with this, and how on earth do you respond to it, and what is the best course of action to take advantage of these situations to better one's cause? Should I spend my time chatting up the richest dude in hopes they will give me an easy job? Should I be chatting up the oldest? Should I just talk with everyone, and sweet talk the girls?
I'm completely how of my league on this. Any experienced advice would be nice.
P.S. I know I likely sound like a horrible, self worshiping bastard, but I will say that I spend half my personal "Cheers" talking with the dude who gave me his chair not because I liked him, but because I know it must suck to be the guy on the bottom of the pecking order, and I knew it would make him happy to chat him up.
I will say though, that I feel a bit evil because I made a point to let the girl I thought was cute know it-- which basically made the rest of the girls less than happy. Good or bad move on that btw?