Discussion » Dating & Romance » Would You Date Someone Who Has a Kid?

  • Mirror
    Mirror wrote:
    <blockquote> <p>If you're a 20- to 35-year-old woman without any children, I caution you against dating a man with kids. I did this once and, let me tell you, I learned my lesson.</p> <p>I dated The Cop off and on for about six years and I have to admit that love kept me from realizing just how big a problem his children were in our relationship. Recently, he and I made plans to have a friendly, totally platonic drink to celebrate my promotion.</p> <p>He canceled the day of because his youngest daughter had hit her head and he'd spent the previous night in the emergency room.</p> <p>I totally understood why he had to cancel, but the situation also reminded me why he and I could never work and why I will never date a man with children again.</p> <p>The Cop has two daughters and a demanding job, obviously. His youngest daughter was extremely sickly or maybe just accident-prone. It was difficult for us to make plans because we had different schedules, and, to make matters worse, his daughter would get sick (or whatever) when we had plans.</p> <p>The girls' mother also had a demanding job, so she never seemed available to deal with her own children.</p> <p>So this brings me to my first point, if you date a man with children, you can never expect to come first. I'm a rational person, so I realize that a man's children should and will come first.</p> <p>But this creates a conflict because a woman wants to feel secure and wanted in a relationship, but if she demands greater importance than his children, then she comes off as insensitive.</p> <p>Another big issue in this type of relationship is baby mama drama. Most men try to avoid conflict with the women in their lives at all cost, so it's a pretty safe bet that he will go along with whatever ridiculousness his children's mother puts him through.</p> <p>I think it was much more than a coincidence that The Cop's ex was never available to pick up their daughters early from school or take them to doctor appointments.</p> <p>Also, the father will always be connected to the mother. And she has the perfect excuse to intrude on his life whenever she wants to, like calling at all hours of the night.</p> <p>I've not only dated a man with children, but I'm also the child of a divorced man. My dad started living with my stepmother when I was really young and as I grew older I started resenting their relationship. I viewed her as the evil woman that took my father away from me and my mom.</p> <p>If you date a man with kids, then you will inevitably be deemed the hated stepmother. You're too young and cute for this title, and no one needs a complication like this in a relationship.</p> <p>There is, however, a rare chance that his children love you, but you just don't see a future with him. Now the breakup is even more difficult because there's a third party involved.</p> <p>You have no rights to visitation and it's unfair to put a child through more separation anxiety.</p> <p>Obviously, there are exceptions to this rule of not dating a man with children, but before you embark on a tumultuous relationship like this, you should heed my warning and save yourself a headache and heartache.</p> </blockquote> <p>Source:http://articles.cnn.com/2009-02-10/living/tf.dating.men.children_1_man-girls-mother-relationship?_s=PM:LIVING</p>
  • №❶ Passioη

    That's the way the story goes. Pop! goes the weasel

    Half the world would do more than "date" someone who has a kid

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    Mmmm,it's somehow better to marry a husband who's wife passed away than the one who got divorced:)

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)


    Hahahahaha ... I once dated a single mother with a nine year old son ... but she said she preferred someone older to take care of her :)

  • Jenelyn Tambago

    @叮噹叔叔 (升职:妇协主任) just the matter of money...

    i wouldn't date a woman with a kid, cause is too much trouble, imagine having to educate the kid for any reason and your gf gets mad about it, or the dad...and if the kid doesn't see you as a parental figure...I will slap that kid like crazy... :P

    "Shut up, you are not my real dad!!"[br] "Then get the fuck out of my house!!!!!!"

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)


    (continued) ... heehee ... I am fairly sure that money was not the priority as she runs her own "beauty parlor" and was loaded ... but I would have been a terrible father :)

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)


    (continued) ... think fast? asked someone who has trouble thinking ...

    Kyle, where are you treating us for dinner next week? will Val be there too?

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