So when are u gonna grow up? next year? Happy Bday by the way
Twenty five is a pretty shitty age to stop going to pubs and to start thinking about growing up.
You were dancing in a pub, that's at least half way to winning...
Priscilla i love you. I'm 28 and i still go out and i don't give a flying fuck about what people think.
If you are still dancing in the pub when you are 65, then you can't start bigging yourself up....
Peter Panarchism for the win.
That is ennui. Take it out and play with it sometimes when no one is watching.
JZ, oh Ithought it was ur Bday. So u just got to realized u 25? Take some coffee is u r feeling tired brotha
I'd even suggest dropping the working hard part
Toys 'R Us kids.
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I used to be Camel of Hate, right? Let me see if I can't find the source of that name somewhere on the internets...
Here we go: "I went to a dance club the other night, give me an example - obviously I wasn't driving. And... so we wound up... at a dance club... Now, i go to a dance clubs about once a year, just to justify the other 364 days of the year I spent in my apartment going: "God! What fuckin' idiots!". And, uh, yeah, it take one day, I'm like a camel, I go to a dance club, I fill my hump with hate, and I go 'bout a year and a hump starts to go down, and I go back to a dance club. I'm the hate camel, you see. And it just takes a brief interlude with humanity to fill my hump and I'm good for about a year. I read a [something]... And suddenly I get itchy, I think "maybe people are ok, maybe I shoud get out and go out"... the hump, I see you in a fucking year! You know. But, uh... anyway, this girl ask me to dance, which I thougt was hilarious, you know. "Would you like to dance?" and I was like "Oh, you read my mind, you know. That's why I'm leaning in the darkest corner, closest to the exit. You know... I'm hip to the boogie! I'm about to cut a rug!" What is so weird, some woman has this weird myth, you can tell the way how the guy is in bed by how he is on the dancefloor. You see guys, it's so ridiculous! I mean, first of all, what does it matter, you know what I mean? If the guy is in the dancefloor, really gettin' into it, and enjoying himself, and expressing himself, what does it matter how he is in bed - he's gay! So... Real man don't dance. They sit and sweat and curse... Oh, fuck..." - Bill Hicks
Why the fuck can't you meet your girlfriend in a club?
@OP - When I was 23, I thought the same thing. So I went out and did exactly that, got a girl, settled down, house, car, domesticated friends, career, the works. I'm serious when I tell you that the right woman will be one you just click with, and personal growth will flow from that naturally. You do not spontaneously decide to be responsible one day. It just don't work that way, son.
You don't find girlfriends in clubs because girls in clubs, like guys in clubs, are drunk, horny, and little more than part of the crush of warm bodies. There is absolutely no chance, in that environment, and often in the awkwardness the morning after, to engage them in any meaningful sense. You don't know what they do for a living, you don't know much about their sense of humor, you don't know how often they go out and get trashed, and you don't know how responsible or intelligent or interesting they are. You just know she randomly banged you one night, or she took your number, and now, in both your minds, you're kinda marked down as "party friends", which to many people is a far cry from "everyday friends". Moving from one class to another is a difficult, time-consuming process, and one that requires mutual interest and effort that neither of you has any guarantee will be worthwhile, and that's time that could be spent, sober, invested in actually getting to know someone in their normal environment. It's not impossible, sure, but it's not reccommended.
Plus, clubs just suck. You and I both know there are far more interesting establishments, clubs, and social organizations that serve alcohol, or not, where you can meet women. Then you take them to clubs once your hormones are up and you need a socially acceptable excuse to grope each other. Going to a club alone is about as pathetic as getting high and listening to trance alone, or spending all day on this forum (hi!). It's all about chemicals and denuding your mind of substantive thought. Please don't.
I met 2 girlfirends in clubs (though am more of a pub man), and we went on to have great relationships. I know plenty of people who have done the same.
You get drunk, horny, then you go home (maybe just exchange numbers in the club). In the morning you makes some breakfast, go for a walk, chat about stuff, and arrange to meet again. If you like each other you can start going out, whatever...
What does it matter where you bloody meet?
It doesn't actually matter where you meet, it's just that your chances of meeting someone engaging on levels other than physical are higher in settings where speaking without shouting is possible. That's kinda why I think clubs have a reputation as a place where you get laid - there really isn't much else to do there but drink, dance, ogle, and try to get laid. And that has its place, it's fun sometimes.
But, if we're talking girlfriend, it's too scattershot. Yeah, you can get laid there, but in the morning, when she finds out you enjoy collecting bamboo bat specimens in Jiangxi in your spare time...you're better off seeing if there's anyone presentable at the bat-collecting club, if you expect to share that part of your life with her. A one-night drunken fling, who cares, but a girlfriend, when I take those dead bats out, I don't want her to run to the bathroom, puke, and run screaming out the door...again...
Scott, you're sounding bizzare.
One of them I went out for three years, and sadly we split up; the split had nothing to do with the fact we both went clubbing. The other lasted just a year.
I go clubbing to dance, get wasted and meet people.
Can't remember the 'sort' of GF' quote are referring to.
Your insistence that you can't find love and/or a girlfriend in clubs is incredibly small-minded; it happens all the time. Can't imagine why you would rule out finding love in a club. Why?
As for your assertion that my idea of what constitutes a girlfirend is different to most people, that might be the case, though I doubt the way in which you are implying.
Father of Boring:
She might puke, but she also might think that you collecting bamboo bat specimens in Jiangxi is quite cool, hell, she might even be into it herself.
As you said, it doesn't actually matter where you meet. Clubbers have a range of interests and I don't think most people go just get to get laid. I certainly don't, and I think about getting laid the whole time.
Girls, boys: Please don't think you can't find your future spouses in clubs. You can, you really can!
@Carlos - Agree, BUT: You stand a much higher chance of finding someone who enjoys clubbing and dead bats at the bat collector's club meeting than the club, whereas at the club you stand a much higher chance of meeting someone who doesn't like dead bats and enjoys clubbing. Replace dead bats with your hobby or personality trait of choice.
So while it's possible that you'd meet your future spouse at a club, you stand a much better chance in other settings, and you stand a much better chance of meeting inebriated people ready for sex at clubs than in other settings. It's precisely the wide range of people you'd meet at a club that lowers your chances of finding one you'd be compatible with long-term. On the other hand, that's no excuse for a closed mind! But just in terms of numbers, I think you're better off trying your luck elsewhere. Casino vs. treasury bonds, etc.
I take your point Father of Boring, though the logic doesn't apply when your chief hobby is, in fact, going out and getting inebriated, as in my case.
Additionally, I don't necessarily envisage my future partner having the same hobbies and interests as me (if my wife was into the minutiae of The British Labour Party, antiquarian books, poker and Manchester United I'd probably be mildly freaked out).
It's quite likely my future partner will be very different to me indeed (appreciate I might be out of sync with other on this), so where does one go, a place where people have a very wide range of interests perchance?
I guess I could try the local bat club though...
WHAT?? If she's got poker, Manchester United, and getting inebriated, marry her.
And stay off the taxidermy circuit, I don't need competition.
I dunno. If you're into someone who's different from you, clubs/bars are good, but where else...I go to the local pool hall a lot. I haven't met many women there, but I meet the guys there, and they're from all different circles, and when you bring up that you're single & looking, you can get introductions. Put in some time there? You'll also get really good at pool.
jz jzjzjz when u realizing that thing, u acturally thinking how to make another 1000 post thread on here~~~~~~~~~
Poker, Manchester United, and getting inebriated might work, I concur.
At heart I'm a pub dude, kindamy home turf; they suit my slightly outre banter and you get that weird range of folk that I like.
I like pool halls (average player mind), and if I could speak decent Chinese would hang out in them more. Currently, if I go it is to play a few frames, man to man (cheap beer too).
jzjz~~~~~~~~what i really want to say is do what you want to do, which is what all these ppl suggested but they seem fuckin messing with u to portrait their attitudes. u wanna grow up, want a gf, this all what u want to do, exactly what u want to do~~~~~~~~~this wont change who u are!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and i agree with some of the above, u can find love in pubs~~~~~~~~~have faith jz bro, go where u feel u can find her, try think of ur target less~~~~~~~~~~remember being relaxing can bring the best state of u~~~this is what i do before i work
JZ，that was seemingly a sensible thought,but no,u can go if u want to.that's the perfect reason,u don't have family,u don't have gf,so u r the kind who are perfect for clubbing.
btw,did anyone notice the old guy,i think he must be over 60,hanging out in sanlitun,i saw him in red twice,juicy twice,youth once,but this holiday i didn't see him.is he ever safe?
"I'd much rather be at home, turn on my favorite porno and whack off, have a smoke and sleep."
I say this to myself every time I leave my apartment.