Perhaps Dando does not wish to meet with you because it is just a terrible waste of time. And I am glad to know that you are aware of your language mishaps.
but seriously dude, from an outsider, you are being far too serious.
to troll or not to troll. that is his choice.
i haven't seen any "abuse" by him or anyone else other than a few simple words which may appear to be harsh.
if you are so pleasantly willing to offer to meet with him then he is quite far ahead of you for declining to do so. it would just be a waste of time for both and perhaps would be some violence.
But last words of mine before I crawl into bed at 315 am are
heed the words of the others like HP and myself.
chill the fuck out. its only an online place to rant and rave.
its not like he raped you :D