Hahahahaha ... it does seem that you are talking about a different one?
I was also startled at first by the look of this actor playing holmes - his long albino white face and very black floppy hair - but he establishes himself very quickly as the perfect internet-age holmes. giving him a website and making watson a blogger all works very well.
it's not fair to diagnose holmes with asberger's, he is simply highly self-involved BY CHOICE! let's give him the benefit of his faults, including his drug addiction. And yes, he seems to be about as interested in sex as he is in even the raw BASICS of astronomy. the earth revolves around the sun??? it's news to holmes, hahahaha! when you have a super-hero brain, the whole idea of sex becomes...boring?