I used to have two girlfriends, one German, one Swedish. No offence, I did have some prejudice against Chinese girls. I met with the German at GT Banana. Just within a minute, with a single smile directly shinning under the flashing light, we started simply but a really complicated relationship, a serious one. It was no coincidence nor hormone drive, just for a different story that neither of us had had before. After the first night with me she told me she was not sure about anything between us, and she was serious, and I said OK. And she said she was very happy about it, but it was beyond her expectation to be my girlfriend, cuz at GT banana she was just expecting a make-out, but I gave her a really warm embrace out there and a first impression of a non-Chinese life style. I said I'm lucky, but deep inside I feel terrible, cuz I was a YOUNG man with a fucking lame sense of love. I expected too much from it. And It proved wrong that I felt terrible, cuz she gave me a lesson that I never had. She said I was too touchy few months later, and she left.
I conclude this as my first success and failure by the mean time. I behaved alien and she got a crush on me but I lost her for my Chinese way of thinking. Maybe many foreign girls would like to be closer to you if you are gentle and straight enough. Horny male expats could get Chinese girls cuz the latter are internally horny enough, but when coming to a gentle-appearing e Chinese guy, she could be totally insightful to uncover your mask. On contrary, a horny-appearing expat girl, if she is expecting someone who might interest her, she probably would prefer a direct conversation-maker who looks smart and humorous, not always think with his dick. Well, this is my observation. doesn't matter if you don't think so.
And I proved it with my second expat girlfriend. She is a cute Swedish. We met on the 2009 spring festival. It was really much better this time to get along with this girl and we did have a really good time together. Sadly, she said she gotta leave and return to her motherland, home, sweet home, so we said good-bye simply on the phone. She said she would be my friend until next earthquake strikes me(I'm from Sichuan"), and we are in good touch still, not often, thanks to facebook.
The last thing I would like to mention is that, a romance is something you have to pursue, not waiting for it. Two weeks ago, I went to Mango with a couple of Chinese friends. I was happy but the rest guys were not. They complained there was no chance to get to know some girls, and just danced, hornily, approaching someone they had interest. What the hell were they think about? Why not just go dance and even say a word with her. She's no robot. If she doesn't wanna talk, just leave her alone, no big deal. You are not asking her for a date, for the time being, I mean, why so fucking shy? And I went to the girls and said: "come on, your dance is no good. come, I got someone to give you a lesson". And the guys were invited, and the girls laughed and dance went on, and everything was done. God damn chinese shy boys!
If you don't have confidence in yourselves, don't complain you were robbed by imperialists. If you don't want or don't know how to make friends with girls, please don't expect any miracle to happen. Well, last but the least, if you are a nice expat, female only, please drop me a line and view the other post I placed on here.
Looking forward to you, my dear! hahaha...