I simultaneously both love and hate having this kind of feeling. Doting over someone when you have no idea whether or not they will return your affections seems quite dysfunctional, but when things actually do work out, it's just that much better. And the feeling of breaking down someones barriers, changing their mind, it's all quite empowering.
At the same time, I enjoy these long and drawn out chase scenarios. You always have to find new and innovative ways to take advantages of the chinks in the other party's armor. The constant plotting and scheming is ridiculously fun for me, and fortunately, I'm a lot less obsessive than I was back in my youth and don't stalk people, so it almost feels like a fun hobby sometimes.
I don't really understand or appreciate the standard "nurturing and caring" type of relationship that most people say they are looking for... I feel like relationships are basically about winning and losing battles and when there are no battles to fight or when you win every battle too easily, it takes the fun out of everything.
Breaking down your one-itis is one of the most challenging battles of all so it has quite a bit of appeal to me, yet at the moment I'd rather not have this problem. Fortunately, at this moment my only real symptoms of one-itis are a complete sense of apathy towards other women and this constant reminder in the back of my mind that I'm afflicted with this and there's nothing I can do about it since my one-itis isn't even in the same country as me at the moment.