haha Thanks Steven, really no offense, I can see Appolinaraya''s point, and I'm just trying to help. But as you can see,due to I'm not native English speaker, so some words may not be that appropriate. Forgive me, but my speaking indeed is direct.
Your story of gfs is good one. You can not accept the ex one's attitude of showing affection in public, then you choose the one you can cope with. Don't have to say who is right or not. Wise way, good model.
Mathew Abisai is a model too. He said "Chinese are disgusting and Stupid ", if he really thinks that way, Nothing wrong. I'm ok. You can not force others to like you.
But if somebody does suffer from living in China, we do need to help him/her out !!!
Yep I'm sure I said that "the country not designed for you guys". It's idea is simple to understand. For instance, USA is designed by American people and for American people, Korea is designed for Korean etc etc. If I go to work or live this these countries,
of course I will obey the local law and custom, try to cope with the things I'm not familiar with. If I really cannot stand any more, I definitely leave. Should I go to Korea to tell Korean people in their country, "you should do this do this, dont do that
dont do that..." Am I silly if I do that, that's their country not mine, which has nothing to do with me. I'm not God, I dont think I have the capacity to teach them! coz we dont say "In God We trust", we dont have ambition to liberate the whole world, we
dont get into our neighbour's houses to force them to learn how to cook in our way!!!
I believe that every country is different and has their own way, designed for themselves first.