I'm currently attending some boring internal trainings, so...I'm so glad that I can find Wifi hot spot in the training room, haha. But it's so hard to input, even my mobile got a QWERTY keyboard.
Wish you could smash your workload and stress with ease.
Now your question. Of course it's NOT NATURAL. Why women must stay at home, nurture baby and do most of the housework? Is there any phyisiological basis leading to a fixed norm of gender determined labor division? Maybe the only sustentive fact is that it
is women who got pregnant, go through a 10 months gestation period, have bulged breast to feed the infants----but it's still only 1or 2 years time for all of those tough time combined. What else? NO.
However, I'm not saying that it's not good for the widely existed norm of women being the carer and men being the breadwinner. As mentioned by Shane, housework is a tough work too, we cannot simply devaluate it. Such kind of families widely exist, and lots
of the marriages of the couples are firm and amicable.
Still I'd like to go a little further: the situation in nowdays China. Contrary to Shane's description, most Chinese young couples living in urban areas only have/will have 1 or at most 2 children, dwell in a smaller apartment, and be able to pay for house
cleaner. So, there is actually not so much housework to do, or at least housework in China can not be qualified as an "tough work" like a average paid job. The situation is: at one hand, some Chinese guys got inclination that their girl/wife had better stay
at home doing housework, at the other hand, lots of Chinese girls actively choose not to work. The crucial point is, what's their intention of making such choices? For guys, to help their girls avoid toughness of highly competetive job market? to avoid any
kind of boring housework? or to consider there girls their private belongings that should be restrant at home? For girls, so much housework to do, so they just choose to undertake it? or they just enjoy the feeling of doing almost nothing but consuming?
I have no intention to make any judgement as every people got their prefered ways of living. What I believe is, rights and duties are always brothers. All rights are earned by fulfillment of duties, and any rights that are not fostered by fulfillment of
duties are not earned, but actually granted by others. And as they are granted, they are not in your hand, or not "safe", which means you could lost them so easily once the granter decide to deprive them from you.
The way of duties fulfillment could be diverse. As I mentioned before, doing housework could not be easy, and it's a kind of duty fulfillment indeed. My opinion is, it's really not important that what the wife/husband actually do, but how each of them consider
their role in family relationship, an equal responsibility sharer or a granter/subordinator. As to practical level, considering the extent of superficiality and cynicism in nowdays society of China, I suggest all Chinese girls at least being able to earn your
bread. Have your husband as the total breadwinner is ok, but always remember the importance of a independent personality and self-esteem.