Good question (or questions), Peter ...
As a person with the upbringing of the old Chinese values, I was shocked to notice the behaviour of a lot of (supposedly) well-educated "younger" people (mostly in twenties and thirties) ... towards older generation on public transport, or just people-in-need
in general (excuse me for not being very PC here, but I do mean pregnant ladies, people with disability and children) ... or smoking in non smoking areas, in front of a huge sign saying "no smoking", and then when someone complained, they just kept on puffing
and the waiters in Regent would ask the non smokers to move to the smoking zone ... oh yeah, we cannot forget the "spitting", even worse if it is on the carpet in the office ... or was it just my bad luck?
And the fact that these behaviours are age-independent, and seems to be such a norm that, I have started questioning whether the old Chinese values still makes any sense in current China ... hence, I have doubt about the meaning of "respect" ... hence my
I had a complicated childhood, starting with the old Chinese values in the family, then British (or western) education in primary (with strong influence from the Catholic church), then moving onto the Australian laid-back style in senior years and university
... the truth is that my generation (back then anyway) did not agree with sex on first date, this was especially true among Chinese, and more so among Catholics, hence the "imprint" ... and to answer your question, therefore, "yes"!
I can certainly see what you meant about the ladies of the younger generation, however, there is still a minority of women in the world who believes in keeping their virginity for their future husbands ... and to them, again it will be a "yes" to your question.
So, "respect" is not really how one sees you, but how you see yourself, do you agree?
Hope that clarifies to you how this old man thinks ...
** Pete, the [delete] key on the key board does not seem to work some time, by the way ... could someone please have a look?