I agree @ Eric Lee... There's an idiom in my native language: "he/she who watches the game sees more than he/she who plays it"... So while you may be a good coach for others to play, you yourself need a coach to play the same game.
So @ Aqua - Put it in simple terms. A locked heart is simply a mood to stay away from being hurt (not from being loved). This is the period when pain speaks louder than the desire to be loved, and this kind of mood is very temporary... Usually for a month
max, the desire will be back. Remember my words for the next time love desire takes control:
Inzt Bukt Ma Akhtu GounFiz [br] Zel Adan Mek Ubuntur Keed.
Taken from my poetry diary 2008. If you understand and live by it, it will change your life forever.