Discussion » Dating & Romance » Be sincere...oh my dear...what are you looking for

  • Fernando Fidanza
    Fernando Fidanza wrote:
    <p>Please explain to me cause i'm kind of confuse...</p>
  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

    ...

    Hahahahaha ... this is one specific question about a particular person? or a generlisation, again?

    I will just give a general answer for now ... women wants "security", but it can come in many forms, which include (but not limited to) what Mooney said above ...

  • Saint - Spartacus

    honest + honest  + honest

  • Brenda Liu
    Brenda Liu wrote:

    Loyalty

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    A: The prostate.

    (because everything else you'd look for is on--not in--a man)

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    Is it silk lined? It looks itchy.

  • Brenda Liu
    Brenda Liu wrote:

    @Lao lee: i haven't been cheated on, my insecurity comes with my birth as female

    @Kyle: Loyalty is what we r looking for most of the time, sure the sports team is included

  • Brenda Liu
    Brenda Liu wrote:

    Kyle, it's not above honesty, i think these two are equally exsiting.

    and for the sports part, ya, i got you. :)

  • Brenda Liu
    Brenda Liu wrote:

    might be i learned from books, stories, etc, but not my own experience though :D

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

    。。。

    (continued) ...

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    "cash, car, and house..do you have?"

    Are those things you would find in, on, or around a man, @Tempora?

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    Being, merely, a humble white guy with a big dick, it is not my place to complain about fairness, as I am quite pleased at how little effort I must exert in order to keep wine in my glass, weed in my pipe, and women on my jock.

    However, I should point out that "cash, car, and house" are more likely to appreciate in value over time and less likely to be ravaged by gravity and the elements than tits and ass. No one has sympathy for aging gold-diggers who have been traded out for new models. Except, maybe divorce attorneys.

    Materialism is an ideological weapon more deftly wielded by men.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    Never ending? Spoiler alert: 武大郎 dies.

    I resent the implication that all dudes would feel honored to have a trophy wife hanging off their arm. At least in my circle of progressive-minded friends, I would feel rather awkward if I showed up to dinner with a girl who is more style that substance, and I'd feel downright hypocritical to be married to one.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    @Tempora, As I had indicated, my opinion is partly informed by the expectations of my peer group, so it obviously isn't just my opinion.

    And you've missed the point: you misjudged that I "would be very proud" to walk aroung Wangfujing with a piece of arm candy like the archetypical male who exists, in your mind, to justify "feminine" materialism, which is every bit as harmful to feminism as it is aggravating to men.

    Of course "others aren't same like [me]." It goes without saying that not all dudes are stupid enough to give a woman money, a car, and a home in exchange for consensual intercourse in the missionary position for the purposes of procreation. Some of them are lucky enough to be gay, which ironically seems to be far less of a pain in the ass than being a materialistic breeder.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    @Tempora, Hold on a second.

    Let me compile a list of all the people in my peer group who might consider me a hypocrite if I purchased a hot trophy wife from the Chinese countryside despite ostensibly being 1) a token straight white male feminist and 2) a non-materialistic hippy socialist.

    Or, let's not, and say we did. Here was the key phrase which should indicate that I'm talking about a particular group of people with shared values more or less compatible with my own: "At least in my circle of progressive-minded friends..."

    Emphasis added. Google it.

    Here's a better idea: you list all the girls you know of who don't give a fuck about money, cars, and houses as indicators of a man's worth. I know there are a lot of them out there, and that information would be far more useful to me than mine would be for you.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    @Tempora, I used 'we' one time, and I was referring to you and me, in this conversation. I never said I represented any group. I said that many of my friends are anti-materialistic; it's not an original idea. I don't flaunt women as status objects because it would be considered inappropriate within my peer group, which is overwhelmingly liberal and progressive.

    You shared your criteria for evaluating a man, and I pointed out that you were talking about external qualities. The thread is about personality qualities. You're off topic.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    Maybe you can take a long walk on a short pier.

    OP asked: "what are you looking for in a man?" and you answered with a bunch of shit that isn't in a man, but on or around them, because you're either a) trolling or b) genuinely superficial. I give approximately as much of a fuck about that distinction as I do about the OP's opinion on relevance.

  • Saint - Spartacus

    similar taste ... ... crazy for work ... ... ^^ yopi

  • Saint - Spartacus

    similar taste ... ... crazy for work ... ... ^^ yopi

  • Yanni
    Yanni wrote:

    to be more independent,whom you can rely on?

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