Discussion » Film & TV » Which is worse, physical or emotional cheating?

  • A.w
    A.w wrote:
    <p><img src="http://www.daemonsmovies.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/last-night-movie-poster.jpg" alt="" width="238" height="333" /></p> <p><strong><span id="Outline" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">Outline</span></strong></p> <p><span style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">Joanna (Keira Knightley) and Michael Reed (Sam Worthington) are in a successful and happy relationship. They are moving along in their lives together until Joanna meets Laura (Eva Mendes), the stunningly beautiful work colleague whom Michael never mentioned. While Michael is away with Laura on a business trip, Joanna runs into an old but never quite forgotten love, Alex (Guillaume Canet). As the night progresses and temptation increases, each must confront who they really are.</span></p> <p><span style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">What would break your heart: to find out that your significant other was in love with someone else&mdash;or was hooking up with someone? Some studies have said that the answer you give depends on whether you&rsquo;re a man or a woman. <br /></span></p> &nbsp;
  • Tina
    Tina's猫 wrote:

    正好前几天有和朋友讨论这个问题,源头是她的一个已婚有孩子的男性朋友正在经历这样的事情,而且也是和已婚有孩子的一个女的,他也很纠结,我们就在分析这个事情,本来这人是好人,但是现在是这样的情况。据他说是他们没有发生肉体出轨的关系,他自己也说和那个女孩完全是精神恋爱,我是觉得他们这样的状况更糟糕

  • Tina
    Tina's猫 wrote:

    我说的这个男孩和他家人是分居两地的,加上这个女的家庭又在北京,而且说不联系了那女的放不下一纠缠就又联系了,我们给他的建议就是赶快一刀两断,但是这样的情况还有点难。所以我们建议他把老婆孩子接过来住,如果继续分居两地什么时候都得出问题。女孩子们,分居两地伤不起啊。

  • Fabian Kollen
    Fabian Kollen wrote:

    出轨就是出轨,不分精神肉体。

  • Michelle Pham
    Michelle Pham wrote:

    in love with someone else!

  • Stine Ekren
    Stine Ekren wrote:

    "出轨就是出轨,不分精神肉体。"

    agree~!

  • kö
    wrote:

    我在沉思中。。。。。。。

  • Alice
    Alice wrote:

    Emotional, i can forgive physical cheating, if he still loves me and promise me never do it again, but emotional cheating?? means he dont love me anymore,

    Kulo说的对,心都不在我这儿了, 留着肉体有什么用呢?看着自己爱的人,爱别的女人那感觉,,不敢想象。。。

  • Alice
    Alice wrote:

    Interesting, really most of women think emotional cheating is worse,

    while guys tend to criticize both ....... of course both are bad, but if you have to choose one and u dont wanna lose your marriage, would people just chose divorce because ur partner slept with someone else once?

    just like Miranda and Steve's case in Sex and the City,,,

  • Pavoir Sponse
    Pavoir Sponse wrote:

    Ok girls, let's imagine...

    a) your husband come home and says, 'Honey, I just need to tell you, over the last few months I have been having these strong emotional feelings towards your best friend Elizabeth.'

    or

    b) 'Honey, I just need to tell you, over the last few months I have been having this fucking, amazingly wild sex with your best friend Elizabeth.'

    So ladies, do tell, which is worse?

    I had always assumed b, but I am happy to be corrected.

  • Alice
    Alice wrote:

    In this case B is worse, we naturally thought about a one night thing, didnt think it might be also months' thing like Carlos said.

    But still, once you really like or even love someone, its very hard to control your mind and try not to fall for that person, and thats why i say its more hurtful...because there's no way back.. 

  • Pavoir Sponse
    Pavoir Sponse wrote:

    So Alice, if B was:

    b) 'Honey, I just need to tell you, last night I had fucking, amazingly wild sex with your best friend Elizabeth.'

    Then A would be worse?

    p.s I think for Men it might be the body that is harder to control (though I'm not sure)

  • Alice
    Alice wrote:

    Men are not animal~~of course they can control their penis????? am i naive to think so?

    nah,,,both is bad bad bad! No Cheating, peace ^^V

  • Father Of Boring

    Well, if you're cheating, emotionally or physically, then something's wrong with the relationship.  Mature people know that, and fix it.  Immature people scream and shout and throw things and get angry and hurt and never forgive each other.  And anyone who does that, either cheats to express dissatisfaction with the relationship before ending it, or reacts like a histrionic chihuahua, that's not someone you want to be in love with, period.  

  • Pavoir Sponse
    Pavoir Sponse wrote:

    How can you 'cheat' emotionally?

  • Pavoir Sponse
    Pavoir Sponse wrote:

    And Alice, yes men are animals. Can they control their penises? Yes, but history would suggest not with a huge degree of success. Just sayin...

  • Father Of Boring

    @Moonriver - 哎。。。今天实在没得精彩可说了,求精彩,我看一下。。。如果你老公拿着吹气娃娃,它脸上贴一个明星的面孔,然后等着你睡后拿着它跑到楼下公园进行交配仪式,这算是精神出轨还是肉体出轨?

  • Alexander Myrstuen haukerud

    囧,每次看到类似的问题,就很怀念古代。那时候出任何毛病,男士可以决斗,女士可以买凶灭口,只要懂点武功,基本算合法没人管。。。。

  • Alice
    Alice wrote:

    FOB,这个比喻也太逗了~~~~~~~~ but lets get back to what you said, how to fix an emotional cheating? how can u make someone love you back? physical cheating can be fixed more easily, u can try to lose weight, be more sexy try new lingeri blah blah, but, can u really make someone love you ? if you do, please, u're a God, tell me how to do :p

  • Richard Dinning

    你出我也出~~~

  • Alice
    Alice wrote:

    Ami, please define cheat first,,physical cheating only? like,,fucked a random girl in a club's bathroom or continuously fucked someone for days/weeks/months?

    Asuming u're saying one time physical cheat...then: Its really hard to say, i dont think i would fall in love with a person who could actually be able to cheat,,,but.....hmmmmm if its only some months relationship then i wouldnt forgive, but if i have a family and even more, children, then im really not sure..

     

  • №❶ Passioη

    @ Bella - how is emotional worse? I still have a fractured skull, thanks to your emotional deeds :q

  • Alexander Myrstuen haukerud

    精神上出轨,目标多半是幻想同一个外遇对象,有延续,滋生感情之可能,这个不仅证明男人在生理上已经被抢走,精神上也偏离核心价值观,基本要同床异梦了,即使他们没有干,心里也已经干了千遍,而且臆想出来更美好的渴望,离分手不远了。。这是很可怕的事,怀着内疚勉强相守,对女性是更心酸的羞辱,只有没办法独立的压力,才会让女人咬断自尊留下来。

    说到底:她比我更美吗?。。。。。远远大于,其它任何方面的打击。

    意淫倒是例外。

    肉体频频出轨,没有分手意愿,目标常常更换的,实际没有精神出轨顾虑:那样的男人不是变心,而是心中原本就只有他自己,自私失德消费色相,做为女性,不要怀疑自己的魅力,按需要去选择取舍就好了:生活更像一桩生意,倒不失简单。希望对方改变是一厢情愿的冷笑话,最好想都不要想。冒险去赌,绝对让你毁在他手上。有一天,你为他卖了肾,他也会把肾精洒在别人家去,你消失了之后,他会在第7个情人的床上怀念你三分钟,因为闻到了同一款洗发水。

    其它情况,都算不得最严重,具体的事,必须千百种类型。

    感情会变,品德也会变,习惯也会变,只有个性不太会变,如果对方的个性,是你能确信继续给你幸福感的,生活又是你能掌控的,倒是不妨再想想如果调教下去。世界上,也有一朝出轨,之后美满超标,无限暴笑的各种喜感情侣,囧。

  • Alexander Myrstuen haukerud

    爱,应该怀有“不忍”。意思是:面对各种诱惑,未必绝然不动心的。但是,想到自己所做的背叛,或是失误,会伤到伴侣的心,让爱人哭泣,会不忍心。。。这个很重要,就是真正心疼你的底限

    谁好,或者不好,根本就不重要,花无百日红,再好,也不能永远甜美保鲜。一时贪欢去做,去想,就是只顾眼前,妄想永远欺瞒,这个意图多数男人都认同,会相互掩护;这也是本能,没啥例外。除非此人清高得离谱,难得艳遇。面对女人,男人会团结起来嘴硬罢了。这没什么。

    做伴侣,留在身边的当然有更多好处是回味的,甚至像雷峰一样对他们好也常见。共同历险恩爱浪漫患难的回忆有足够生命再刷新,不同的男人选择不同方式来珍惜。但我也说了,至少在目前这个情义沦丧的时代,即使你把肾捐出来服务爱情,赢得的也只是敬意愧意,或其它恩怨回报。经济和事业支持另计,那是功利因素。

    与情动本身,没有关系。

    每个人都是独一无二的,他对他自己的价值或信心,亦这么看,

    若非他把你,看得重于他自己,“ONLY ONE”这个排名,也是枉然无用的。

    失去你,他不习惯了,他思念了,他恼悔了,或是损失利益,或是寂寞空虚了,别的什么,都是规律得失,没多大意思。

    哪一种更容易,其实都很难。但最重要是面对自己的心,重新认识自己的价值,对未来的理解。赏也好,罚也好,或是隐忍,原谅,都要忠于自己的感情,而不是被激怒失控,或是气馁崩溃。选择什么,则仍是要看每个人的信仰了。

    不放弃自尊,不压抑怨恨,才会美丽。只要自己觉得状态好,漂亮,自信,有选择权,无论服务对方做到哪一步,还是善待自己,甚至报复惩罚,都好。

    说到爱情本身的修复,唯有妒忌,能点燃激情,把爱欲和独占再夺回来。那是纯粹的本质。这是又快,成本也低的方式,但不能保证持久。

    用温暖和宽容,兼顾展现全新神奇魅力,严重惊艳、改变到对方,再爱一回吧,是最稳定的,但同时也是投入更多,付出更多,风险最多的选择。

    一但搞不好,不甘心,而非认清本质,要勉强维系关系:假装忘记这回事,或者替对方找借口,把责任推到第三者身上,自怨自艾,无数风波翻旧帐,最后反复内伤加外伤,最后全当炮灰,是最常见的结局。非常危险,不建议舍身去尝试

  • Alexander Myrstuen haukerud

    TOjacky Wang:

    清早遛狗就被夸。。。。。囧,

    请叫我捉奸专业户吧,奸情世界里的名柯南,每一集都会遇上偷人高手~

    密室被偷,瞒婚被偷,骗婚去偷,不在现场地偷,证人帮着偷,一次偷人俩换仨,偷到自己家~偷偷更健康,先偷人再偷钱,偷归偷,不罚款。偷人回来扮雷峰献宝~等各种奇葩狗血,给情人买完花打完炮,再回来给你买菜、买鞋买包包。这就是最普通的现实,因内疚劈腿,缴罚款弥补而致富的人很多,分不清花钱卖萌谁嫖了谁,谁骗了谁。被出卖一次不够的,是可以继续虐啊。

    女人相信浪子回头,不如相信喜羊羊。

    废了武功,子弹打光,脑残被韩剧治好了,否则关牢里也会搞基情。

    要是能打得赢对方,有钱养这个鱼,一年疼他三百回,可以掐着玩去。

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