Discussion » Dating & Romance » Sex Work: The Cost

  • A.w
    A.w wrote:


    By: Fetiche Antoinette
    People may not realize how hard it is so be in sex work. And no, I don’t mean the penises flying out of boxers without a seconds notice or getting cancelled on or the various weird smells and fluids that can occur. It’s hard (accidental pun I swear) because of the non-BDSM people.

    Everyone thinks you’re a freak/prostitute/sad person or does the wow-how-interesting-smile-but-on-the-inside-I’m-judging-your-parents-for-low-quality-care thing. And frankly who wants to get into a semi-defensive explanation of their true self every time you meet someone at a bar or are introduced to friends of your friends as “that girl I told you about”.

    Obviously I could just lie but what a waste of everyone’s time. I recently had “the truth will set you free” tattooed on my left arm - I am honest to the core despite how frequently the truth fucks us all (and never pays. Rude.). One of the hardest things is dating. Not only does someone have to accept that I do S&M related activities with people for money, they also have to accept that I will want to do said activities with them in private. And not everyone is cool with that.

    I tried internet dating for months but that didn’t go so well. I mean what is a man supposed to do when he sees my profile? Hmm…cute blonde…likes kids…can’t live without Instant Watch on Netflix….dominatrix…and sold. I have been on so many dates that just ended with me telling stories about ‘the weirdest shit I’ve ever done’ and guys trying to sleep with me or grope me after lukewarm conversation. It’s much worse when I actually start dating someone and after a few weeks realize it’s been about sex and nothing else. That makes me feel more like a whore than any client ever has.

    The truth about me is I have a very high IQ and I’m a talented artist. But you know. Also carry a whip in my purse. If you ever meet a sex worker do me a favor: ask her about something not related to sex. Like her favorite ice cream flavor (Half-Baked) or her opinion about the Asian market crash (it’s bad). Because c’mon. Who wants to take about their job after work?

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    +1

    To be honest, the last few BDSM enthusiasts I've met have turned out to be profoundly disappointing on an intellectual level, but I fully understand and internalize the reasoning here. Sex workers are people, too.

    And besides, my old man always told me, "Treat a lady like a whore and treat a whore like a lady."

    "Normal" people ought to apply similar reasoning to the rampant infidelity in China. Don't hate the 小三; she doesn't have the power in the relationship. Hate the cheating husbands who abuse their positions in government and business just so they can have a taste of their ancestors' decadence. At least in the old days, concubines were afforded some respect.

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    Think about why people always chose the "小三" to blame ?  

    Sex work just a job. And in some place of Europ it is legal, such like the Red Light District of  Amsterdam,am i right?

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    It really makes a lot of sense to completely legalize sex work in China. It's already "regulated" by the relevant goobermint enforcement organs.

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    Why chose "小三"to blame cause she or he is in the low position of the moral standar of society. 

    人善被人欺,所以现在的小三都是没有杀戮掘阀之心是做不了下三的,做小三的不容易啊, 我不是同情小三,我的爱情路上来一个我杀一个,来两我杀一双, 决不手软, 看看做正太的也非常人哈哈。

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    To be concerned about many aspects sex work really need to completely legalize in china, it might give the pople really good standar law or rules to abideo by and deal with the triangle or tetrango ot the star.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    @Jenny&King, Society's moral priorities are all kinds of fucked up. Ergo, the demand for sex workers.

    The person in the truly low position is more often than not the cheater, not the 小三. When people in exclusive relationships decide to deceive their loved ones, they've already committed crimes in their hearts and minds before they even come into contact with a 小三. The important thing to realize is that the cheaters themselves are guilty of an emotional betrayal that is far more devastating to loved ones than the comparatively minor physical betrayal implicit in a sex act.

    The 小三 only commits a crime of flesh that's over with in mere moments. The cheater commits the same sin, but also lies. That's far, far worse.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    Back to sex work, there is a parallel phenomenon:

    When the police try to fight prostitution, they're always punishing prostitutes more than they're punishing patrons.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    Good point. Porn isn't a real moneymaker in a country with lax intellectual property laws. Flesh is more easily taxed.

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    保持 大楼的挺拔, 我们这还可以 用美人计 讲到计策 孙子兵法的 36计 全都可以用来和谐社会,发展我国的Sex work。

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    嗯嗯  术业有专攻嘛 还得上能顶天下能掏粪的。

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    hehe Dando as your apinion you talking about no marriage life ? or must to married with a crime committed heart ? That might be true, but i more believe in the standar people set in their heart, faith and control .

  • A豆腐
    A豆腐 wrote:

    1, Prostitution is a hard and dangerous job.

    2, They are just simple women who have regular lives and need to be loved.

    ................. 

    I don´t think so. Few weeks ago, I saw a documentary about the prostituton in my country, the girls that work in clubs, the middle standing, gain 800-1200 euro, per day !!!!!!  street workers 10-20 euro per service...... The high standing escorts between 1000-1500 per service (the cheapest price).  There are kinds....kinds of persons, kinds of whores...

    Many of them after 2-3 years of work, have enough money to run their own bussiness and buy their own house in their countries. Many of them come from East Europe.

    Street workers is a hard and dangerous job... the others live pretty good, better than many other workers, fucked by their own bosses for a shitty wage.

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    that is true on you hand.

  • A豆腐
    A豆腐 wrote:

    seriously, behind the middle and high standing whores, there aren´t tragic and sad stories... only a combination of: a bad money situation, a practical mind and a personal decision... Other women in the same situation don´t choose sell their bodies to other men, those women take other jobs and gain much less than the hookers.  

    why now all this sympathy for whores?  Can anyone explain me where is the charm and drama of be a whore?

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    @Jenny, I was talking about people who are married, or just living together, or just dating exclusively. When the man (or woman) in a relationship cheats, their crime is greater than the 小三 with whom they cheat.

    People's standards for faith and control suck. They are entirely self-serving and hypocritical. We only talk about monogamy soulmates and solely mating with one person for the rest of our lives to enhance our reputations and social status. In our hearts, we're all thinking about fucking, always. The moral difference between thinking and acting is negligible.

    Truly virtuous people don't become that way by looking down upon the prostitutes and mistresses of the world. Truly virtuous people don't need to boast about their superior moral values. Truly virtuous people earn their honor the hard way.

    That said, I think there's far more honor in being a prostitute than in being a mistress. Prostitutes have fewer illusions.

    @Adolfo, But what about those street workers making only 10-20 euros for a trick?

  • A豆腐
    A豆腐 wrote:

    @Dando, yep, they are the nasty face of this work, uneducated, drugs addicts......and the worst, they really had not choice about their future... but, there is a abysm between this kind and the others. Living las vegas and Secret Diary of a Call Girl.... almost different species

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    hehe that is a specail job , seems evry kind of jobs has winner and Looser and seems the sex job need more high techniques to make a good money .Now we should think about a new definition for the sex work and the prostitute?    Or otherwise i think Adolfo you are talking about 007girls.   I am not Sympathize to anyone.

  • Jenny&King
    Jenny&King wrote:

    Dando :yes.it dose.

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    @Adolfo, So your problem is that a highly paid fetishist's complaints about not being respected by potential partners outside the business is "small stuff" compared to the shit that streetwalkers put up with (disease, addiction, abuse)?

    Maybe adultery and concubinage aren't entirely off-topic. All things being relative, that is.

  • A豆腐
    A豆腐 wrote:

    @Dando, I can understand that the hypocresy of a society can hurt, if the same person that adore her in private, spit on her in public. But I find hilarious that a dominatrix complains about those things, she is all day kicking balls and she can not tolerate a little pain.... I mean, people that work more than 10 hours per day in other jobs with a shitty wage, also find very difficult have dates, families, and a life

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    Adolfo, I think the point was that her problems are similar to those of "normal" people whose dates ask her boring questions about her work. Sex work is being humanized, not evangelized.

  • A豆腐
    A豆腐 wrote:

    Dando, from that point of view, now i get it. In my country there is a long tradition of catholicism and prostitution, hookers and priests go hand in hand, so nobody doubt about their humanity

  • Niseon
    Niseon wrote:

    笑贫不笑娼!

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    The cost of sex work can be disastrous and terrible. I don't think Entertainer as they called now since Prostitute sound too pejorative are really happy with their jobs. Most of them to this job out of necessity. If they had another opportunity they'd trade for the other one.

    Each human being deserve respect regardless of the job or position he or she is holding. A slave needs respect, a poor needs it, gay, and so on.

    But we've got to know that since the dawn of time, someone trading her flesh was always regarded with indignity, it's a job even nowadays people are not proud of publicizing it. Even relatives, are won't be happy to have a someone doing such a job. I won't be happy to see my sister doing such a job.

    Zizou(Zidane Zinedine) headbatted Materrazi when the later asked him to give him his entertainer sister. 

    Briefly, it's a job that costs too much, it can cost life. To let someone whom u don't have affection nor emotion to come on top of u, just money, and after that?

    High Priest

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