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  • Shu Qi
    Shu Qi wrote:
    <p><span style="font-family: verdana,geneva; font-size: small;">Do you ok the married couple living with the husband's parents or the wife's parents?</span></p>
  • Iain Bonner
    Iain Bonner wrote:

    yeah you can live with them in the same room. share a bed if you want. big 4 person bed. very convenient 

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... been there ... done that ... there is a Chinese saying:相见好,同住难 ...

    Ans: not everyone can live with the in-laws ... peacefully ...

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... Shu Qi ... the saying is "no pain, no gain" ... and there are two sides to everything ...

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    哈哈哈哈,皇命难违啊!后来因为工作关系,就搬了出来!

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahaha ... my mother actually likes living with my wife more than with me, possibly because I have lived with my mother for many years, and have nearly no inhibition, but the extra "gap" between them have made them better friends :)

    So, Shu Qi, what you had described is true for many mothers, but I can assure you that it is not for all mothers ... and it also depends on the "wife", how she treats her mother-in-law and other family members (in my case, my sister is also living with us at that stage) ... also, the fact that my wife has lived in Sydney for a few years before we married, also helped ...

    When I was living with her parents in BJ in 2006, because I had not lived in BJ before, other than the two to three weeks in 2003, I had trouble with both their eating and living habits ...

    Ans: it took time to adjust ...

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    The Bible says: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh"

    I underligned leave.

    So it's good for couple to leave away from their parents.

     

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... Shu Qi ... though I dont have the actual statistics, what works for one person, does not necessarily work for another ... and it would seem that it is not supposed to work for anyone who believes in the bible ...

    High Priest ... anywhere in the bible does it tell us when will China's stock market go back up to 6000 or beyond?

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    I just let the Bible speak by itself Afroman.

    DD Uncle,  do you want to know when? How many stocks did u buy?

    It's gonna be very soon. They won't go down, the price will just fly:)

     

  • Tina
    Tina's猫 wrote:

    living with parents is always not working out as we wished

    a friend's colleague finally divorced with her husband just because of the mother-in-law,who is living with them,and for the problems, give a bold imagination.

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ...

    Afroman ... but I would not be surprised if the bible has it in there somewhere ... anyway ...

    High Priest ... again, is one of the ten commandments against lying?

    Tina ... would your friend's colleague be one of the 80's generation by any chance?

     

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    Uncle DD< I'd advice you to get that book and read it:) We just don't need the bible to tell us that the stock will be moving up tomorrow, am not sure whether there's this word "Stock" in the Bible. But the Bible tells us, the economy surely will get worse. WOuld you tell me that housing price market will go down following all the measures that Mr Hu and Mr Wen are taking? Stock prices will reach 6000 and yet, that value will be meaningless

    I'd advice young couple, if necessary, to live separately  from parents home. Most couples in China, and other places are having problem because of living together. Often times father in law and son in-law don't have problem, I don't get it why mother in-law and daughter In-law don't get along with each other...

    If you've got to save your marriage, if you've got a that opportunity, stay away from them. Live ur live.

    This is so hard to do in CHina, where most hubbies listen too much to their mothers.

    I've got a church member, who has to call his mother once he is on the way back home, and once he gets back home, his mother is sitting on the other side of the table while he is eating, talking and asking too many questions about his day and job, and his wife thinks that was her role to do that, she was the one suppposed to be called, and sitting on that chair. But the man, always say, she is my mom.

    High Priest

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    I advise you to read the Bible more carefully or simply shut the fuck up, HP.

    The Bible says: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh"

    Emphasis added; this sentence is dependent upon the one before it and is utterly meaningless without it. This is from Genesis 2:24, part of the story of the Garden of Eden. The "this reason" being referred to is that God created Eve from Adam's rib.

    Genesis 2:23 -  “This one at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one will be calledwoman,’ for she was taken out ofman.”

    Obviously, this is fucking metaphorical. Men don't get pregnant.

    I told you this before: "to become one flesh," specifically means FUCKING. It's a euphmism for a biological process. It has NOTHING to do with living together.

    Genesis 2:25 - "And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed."

    Your constant misinterpretation of the Bible makes the Baby Jesus cry. Stop it.

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... *teary eyes* ...

    High Priest ... which part of "I might get burnt to ashes if I touch it" you cannot understand?

    " .... But the Bible tells us, the economy surely will get worse." ... which verse?  

    " ... If you've got to save your marriage, if you've got a that opportunity, stay away from them. Live ur live." ... parents are not a contagious disease (spelt wrong?) ...

    ... again, it comes down to individuals, and some people are not very good at living in huge families ...

    " ... This is so hard to do in CHina, where most hubbies listen too much to their mothers. " ... I am very, very curious what kind of people might actually listen to you ... hope you are not counselling married couples ...  

    " ... I've got a church member ... and his wife thinks that was her role to do that ... " ... from experience, the problem is not the mother-in-law, but the husband, and no matter how far away they are, the husband will still be "listening" to his mother, whatever might be the reason ...

    * to be continued *

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    The Bible says: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh".

    Dando, I underligned the word Leave__Moonriver understands my point well, because she got the experience. I didn't talk about fucking. It's advisable for the couple to settle to their own place. If you spent years learning theology in Lutheran to be preacher of heresy I feel bad., it's sad that your interpretation of the scriptures is far too liberal and this is what have taken people away from Lord. Having said so, you should be the one to shut the fuck up.

    I as High Priest, while counsellingnew married couple, I advice them to avoid living with parent if necessary. I check my words carefully here. I don't say parents are evil and should not be approached. There could be special circumstances that couple should live with their parents...that's not my point

    I'm not against Chinese culture, but when parents tell their son to marry and leave with them because he has to be taking care of them while they are in their 50s, I get sick.

    Uncle DD Economic life in Biblical times was not like the 21st century, but themes of credit and debt, wealth and poverty teach enduring truths with meaning for today.

    The worsening of the economy around the world is one of the sign of times.

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... so the ten commandments did not forbid people from swearing?

    ... again, as stated "But the Bible tells us, the economy surely will get worse", and since I need to avoid getting burnt, which verse?

    ... and for all these years, I have wondered why I dont get depression ..

     

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    Uncle DD, don't think the bible is summed up in to ten commandments.

    The bible forbids swearing, but I used to swearing because the one who used it first thinks it's a biblical language.

    Give me a verse in the bible where we can find the word Fuck and Stock.

     

  • Ejdnzlaj
    Ejdnzlaj wrote:

    Get your own crib, be independant!

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    The Bible says: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh".

    Dando, I underligned the word Leave__Moonriver understands my point well, because she got the experience. 

    Leave was being used metaphorically in the original Biblical passage. You quoted the Bible irrelevantly again. That's what this is about, and that's why I emphasized "FOR THIS REASON" because that means that there is another verse which this one is logically dependent upon.

    Your English language comprehension is as shitty as your Biblical scholarship.

    I didn't talk about fucking.

    True. The Bible did. That's what "to become one flesh" means in the Bible. They weren't talking about moving out of one's parents home. My point remains: you quoted the Bible irrelevantly, again.

    It's advisable for the couple to settle to their own place.

    Also true, but that's not what the Bible passage was about. Of course I prefer not to live with my parents, but I don't need a Bible verse to tell me why that's advantageous.

    If you spent years learning theology in Lutheran to be preacher of heresy I feel bad.,

    You should feel bad for plenty of other reasons, such as pretending to be a representative of a major religion. At first I thought you were being satirical, but then I realized I was the only one laughing.

    For your information, I attended a Lutheran pre-seminary university for a single year, and then realized that I was surrounded by the least Christ-like people on the planet. The real Jesus was a black anarcho-socialist revolutionary who would scoff at your bourgeois theological interpretation that living separately from one's parents is religiously sanctioned.

    it's sad that your interpretation of the scriptures is far too liberal and this is what have taken people away from Lord.

    You're the one who took liberties by taking a passage from the story of Eden and treating it as "proof" that a person shouldn't live with their extended family, which was actually fairly common in Biblical times.

    Having said so, you should be the one to shut the fuck up.

    I've had enough of your proselytizing, you fucking charlatan. I would see you defrocked. Let's see how many altar boys are hiding under your cassock.

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahahaha ... *teary eyes* ... *with hands up in the air* ...

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    "And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh"

    Leave here litterally could mean glued together,

    To be one flesh litterally doesn't mean fucking, it means, Into one, or two in one flesh. That's ur own deceptive theology, I got it why u left the seminar.

    This text doesn't concern Eden only, some apostles talked about it like Matt 19:5...

    Read me well, I didn't detach couples to detach themselves from their relatives. Read again.

    Ha ha, those F bullets, U did well against John Constatine, and u were Champion. I don't blame you Dando. For me they have no effects. Find someone else.

    Overall, ladies and genttlemen, once you are married, if possible, find your own crib as someone said upstaires it makes life easier and it creates harmony in the family. Parents can come and visit you for a certain numbers of days and the stay would be more enjoyable.

    There are circumstance that we can't deny parents to live with the couple, it depends. They are the people who gave us life, they need care and love.

    DD:) Ur hands are still up in the air? ha ha, I like ur laughter.

    High Priest__The direct descendant of Abraham and Jacob

     

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... so your root is something or somewhere around Middle East, but not Africa? It is confusing ...

     ... and is that why you are still interpreting the bible like your ascendents?

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    Correct, you got it DD

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... that explains a lot ... so we should really NOT take everything, or even anything, that you had said, from face value ... right?

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

    "To be one flesh litterally doesn't mean fucking, it means, Into one, or two in one flesh. That's ur own deceptive theology, I got it why u left the seminar."

    Yes. It literally means that they inhabit the same body, breathe the same air, and eat the same food. They become a two-headed hermaphroditic octopod.

    DON'T GET MARRIED. THE BIBLE SAYS YOU WILL BECOME A HIDEOUS BEAST.

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahaha ... being a slow reader, I just saw the "glue together" part ... if truly "literally" ... it is very scientifically profound ... probably a new discovery ...

     

  • High Priest
    High Priest wrote:

    Cool u like it:)

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... another mystery in the biblical sense ...

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