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  • Sibyl1130
    Sibyl1130 wrote:
    <p>well, i just wanna know if u cant find the one u love, will u be single ? but no one knows for how long,maybe 1 year ? 10yrs ? even lifetime...or u choose to be with the one who likes u , but u have no feeling for ? its a tough question~</p>
  • Fabian Kollen
    Fabian Kollen wrote:

    有一天,柏拉图问苏格拉底:什麽是爱情?

    苏格拉底说:我请你穿越这片稻田,去摘一株最大最金黄的麦穗回来,但是有个规则:你不能走回头路,而且你只能摘一次。

    於是柏拉图去做了。许久之后,他却空著双手回来了。

    苏格拉底问他怎麽空手回来了?

    柏拉图说道:当我走在田间的时候,曾看到过几株特别大特别灿烂的麦穗,可是,我总想著前面也许会有更大更好的,於是就没有摘;但是,我继续走的时候,看到的麦穗,总觉得还不如先前看到的好,所以我最后什麽都没有摘到。。。

    苏格拉底意味深长地说:这,就是爱情。

    共勉.....................

  • 微笑的Min
    微笑的Min wrote:

    爱情,是偶遇;在一起,是必然;偶遇好聚好散,在一起互搀互扶~~我有过爱情,但一直单身,不再流连爱情,倒是体会了幸福开心

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahahaha ... Chinese or English channel? I will stick with English for now ...

    Sibyl1130 ... speaking from experience, I did not get married until I was 37, and prior to that, or a little bit earlier, I did not think about being with anyone (except dating) because I was uncertain about the future due to health issue, even till this date ...

    To answer your question, I would say "you dont have to be", like what Adjusting and Harmonious said, you can choose to be single, or you could choose to be with someone, though not necessarily "in love", that's what choice is all about ...

    There is no guarantee with "love" (that reminds me of an old TV series in HK which talked about selling "love insurance") ... because if the two people wants to sustain (or maintain) a relationship, they need to "work" or adjust, whether it be related to money or sex or any other material and non material things ...

    We all have heard that some people chose to split or divorce, and I know of two main reasons:

    1. they found a problem or issue, and did not want to deal with it (e.g. relationships with the other's family and friends)

    2, or they had tried and tried, but can no longer deal with this (e.g. gambling and drugs, also domestic violence, are common in these cases)

    So, like what Shadow said, try to see the lighter side of being single and only worry about how to be happy, if you happen to meet someone, that's good, if not, shrug a little, smile a little, and be the happiest single person in the world ...

    Remember: no one can make oneself happy, except oneself ...

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