Discussion » Nonsense » is it stupid to say so??

  • JOANNA
    JOANNA wrote:

    girls, have you ever told a guy that he couldnt make you orgasm directly after having sex?  is it stupid to say so?   for western guys, does it mean something to make girls orgasm when they have sex with girls? or they just care about their own feelings.

  • Simen Wangberg

    "girls, have you ever told a guy that he couldnt make you orgasm directly after having sex?  is it stupid to say so?"

    What do you mean by this, exactly? That women lie about being unable to achieve orgasm to make their male partners feel better about being crap in bed? I've definitely known of some chicks that do this - I, for one, do not approve. Although I do genuinely believe that some people are just not sexually compatible.

    "for western guys, does it mean something to make girls orgasm when they have sex with girls? or they just care about their own feelings."

    Ahhhh. I will say that most Western dudes are probably pretty fail-tastic at bringing their partners to orgasm, either because they're A) lazy or B) inexperienced/unknowledgeable.

    However, I still wager that they're better at it and/or do it more often than their Chinese counterparts. BUT! The jury is still out on this one. I've heard a few complaints here and there, but I don't really know for sure. Thus:

    Chinese girls that have been with Chinese dudes - what's the deal? Do they really suck at pleasing you guys, or is that just a myth perpetuated by the fact that they tend to have smaller wangs...er...dongs...er...penises. Damn. Anyway, someone should clear this up.

     

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahaha ... I think she meant, is it OK to tell the truth or is it better to fake it ... or, another way to ask this, is it a big deal to the (western) guys if the girl has the big O ...

     

  • Simen Stensvoll

    i haven't told that

    i think man should know if the girl got orgasm or not

    and if he was sweet eoungh he would ask the girl what he would do to make her cum

  • Petter Meisfjordskar

    " Does it mean something to make girls orgasm when they have sex with girls?" I do not understand this clearly. Do you mean lesbians?

  • Rebecca Arnesen

    just sweetly ask him to finish you off, before pushing his head down...

    that'll do the trick

  • MiLo
    MiLo wrote:

    animal doesnt have orgasm.

  • Rebecca Arnesen

    dolphins do

  • 随便叫兽
    随便叫兽 wrote:

     

    "just sweetly ask him to finish you off, before pushing his head down..."

    THIS.

     

    Getting negative feedback is better than none at all, and broads assuming every vajayjay comes with a roadmap.

  • Simen Stensvoll

    @JOANNA

    i think i understand what u tried to express

    personally i don't think its wise to  tell a guy that he couldnt make you orgasm directly after having sex,it might make him feel embarrassed

    u can tell him what u like when u having sex,or discuss sexual skills after that with him.communication is required.

     

     

  • Mari Vidste
    Mari Vidste wrote:

    Quality men are all dedicated reciprocators, meaning fuck yeah we care if the girl gets off! we want to make sure that everything is equal in a sexual exchange, and we aren't shy about going down on ladies. If fact we're pretty slutty about it.right, Jarg?

     

  • Peter S 李贝勒

    JOANNA

    We all have the basics technique, eheh but all the girls are different, the pahantasm are different. what shall we do? lick ur neck? go faster? slower? or mmm... the answer; the can man get it by 2 ways ;

    1st observation (wow! when i touch her like that, she breath faster, and she said yes, yes, so i should keep it in mind)

    The 2nd way is by communication. If u re not satisfy tell him but with the good words, kindly... i think that u should definitly say to him what u like and don t like, don t be shy, a clever guy will understand. And for sure, if a man love U, he will deffinitly care about the pleasure that U and him should have when U make love!

    if it's a ONS i think, people sometimes care sometimes don t care... no rules just a question of feeling and what happen in the air at this moment.

     

     

  • Joakim Berg Solum

    A lot of women are notoriously bad at communicating their general level of pleasure. You have the stealth orgasmer's and then you have girls who try their hardest not to react to pleasure because then they would feel slutty.

    You don't need to tell your partner that he is doing a shit job, you just need to communicate somehow (moan, breathe harder, whatever) when he is getting it right to encourage him to do more.

    I love girls who are a bit vocal in bed... except the ones who say things like "fuck me!" How am I supposed to respond to that? "I already am!"

  • Peter S 李贝勒

    cool jon,

    but i think that the girl have no choice when she doesn t like something; SHE have to say it, or her sexuality will be like hell, or leave the guy soon.

    and about the pleasure, sometimes, man and girl need explanations. eheh clear explanations. my point is 'more communication=more pleasure'.

    i do and live it, and it seems to work well...

    think about...

  • Minger
    Minger wrote:

    You don't need to tell the guy you didn't have an orgasm; that should be obvious to him, right?

    But never fake it (unless you're in the habit of effing drunken strangers, and you just want him to get off and go). If you fake it, your guy might think he's doing something right and you're committing yourself to terrible sex for as long as you're in the relationship.

    Everyone likes feedback, and instructions are fine too.. lower, deeper, slower, harder, touch me there, ouch, yes that's good...

  • Simen Wangberg

    "...except the ones who say things like "fuck me!" How am I supposed to respond to that? 'I already am!'"

    Hahaha. Seriously, this has always puzzled me. Although any kind of verbalization is better than none...

    "You don't need to tell the guy you didn't have an orgasm; that should be obvious to him, right?"

    See Jon's comment about those chicks that have stealth orgasms. It does happen, and it is frustrating as hell. Seriously ladies, don't be shy about speaking up. Dudes are not psychic.

    "let me tell you sth,  bringing girls to orgasm doesnt depend on if guys' penuts big or small. it depends on if guys do it with their care, hearts and love."\

    Sorry, but I've never (ever) met a girl that gets off on care, hearts or love. For the record, I have a huge peanuts. She accidentally the whole peanuts. Sorry, I'm in rare form this morning.

    Glad to see that most of the gals (and dudes) here are into communicating their needs. I've never understood women (or men) that are quiet in the bedroom - for fuck's sake, you're both already naked and swapping multiple body fluids. Would it kill you to talk a little? I understand some folks are just naturally quiet, but still. Ask and ye shall receive...don't ask, and ye...shall...be...sad. Fuck.

     

     

  • Jamie Wen
    Jamie Wen wrote:
    It reminds me this saying "Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake a whole relationship."
  • Minger
    Minger wrote:

    @ Jamie: Hah!

    @Jon/Mike: What the hell is a stealth orgasm? Is this when a girl doesn't have an orgasm but says she did so you'll get off her and go away?

  • Simen Wangberg

    "What the hell is a stealth orgasm? Is this when a girl doesn't have an orgasm but says she did so you'll get off her and go away?"

    Nah man. Some chicks just...I don't know how to explain it. They just don't give any immediate indication that they've had an orgasm. This one gal I dated for awhile was like that - she insisted that she was having them, but just never made a big fuss when she did. Maybe Jon can explain this more eloquently.

  • Simen Stensvoll

    搭车同问

     What the hell is a stealth orgasm? ?

  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Above, you are yet to learn things here. The other day one asked about "dance sex" and now "Stealth orgasm". Well, that is when you come when the partner actually never notices that you have had an orgasm. So you stealth -fully cum. But all the same, why wait at the end? Tell him during the action that you need too. If he does not make it, bite him!!! En!
  • Simen Stensvoll

    i still didn't get it yet...........

  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Ok, this is when your partner gets an orgasm but does not show or do any sign that makes you feel that he or she has had an orgasm. This is typical of men that "connect".
  • Simen Stensvoll

    What is an orgasm??

    i suddenly feel so confused

  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Eeeeeehhhh, young girl! Well, now i leave that to 叮噹叔叔. Just wait. He will get down to earth about that.
  • Simen Wangberg

    "What is an orgasm??"

    .......

    please tell me you're kidding.

  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Hey Mike, i heard here in China it is so possible for a lady to even die without knowing what it is. They here it in theory.
  • Simen Stensvoll

    @mike

     im not kidding.

    i think its hard for most women to get an  orgasm by haing sex with man,not only in China

  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Mostly here, why, because many ladies do not know it is their right to enjoy sex too and have an orgasm. Many thought a lady was a sex symbol and just to give birth. In many western countries even high school students that engage in sex know they must have an orgasm. They would ridicule a man who would not make them satisfied there and then.
  • Simen Wangberg

    "im not kidding."

    Well, that is truly unfortunate. You're right, it's not always easy to achieve orgasm through intercourse. However, there's more than one way to skin a cat...

    And I suppose that just sounds incredibly inappropriate in this context.

  • Simen Stensvoll

    i think to be satisfied  and orgasm are two things

    also i think there are two kinds of  orgasm

    i don't know how many girls have both

    maybe i am just a tragedy

    maybe i should start a new thread" im 27,but i haven't had an () orgasm yet"

  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    One leads to the other.
  • Minger
    Minger wrote:

    Miss K, I was going to say "well played" after that "what's an orgasm" line, but you're really serious huh?

    告诉你男朋友他得去问他朋友怎么样才能让你高潮。同时告诉他他如果做不到你会找别人去尝试。

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Some girls screamed (or howled) ... some girls crunched (?) their toes ... some girls bucked their hips ... some girls scratched ... some girls cried with joy ... some turned white in their eyes ... everyone's probably got the general picture ...

    If none of these ever happened when having sex, you (as a girl) probably never had an orgasm ...

  • Kodi
    Kodi wrote:

    It is not stupid to say so, but if the guy is not aware then perhaps he does not care.  Unless he is very great and you still are not able to reach orgasm.  This is possible because as stated above some women need more than vaginal stimulation to achieve an orgasm.

    Teach your man....

  • Cecilie Reksten

    just say it

  • Petter Meisfjordskar

    A friend had one who always bit his lip during that time. That is when we new they were there.

  • Kodi
    Kodi wrote:

    I knew a girl who was 27 and never had an orgasm before...  She turned out to be a gusher like you see in those porn films!  Although vaginal stimulation did not bring her there, oral seemed to do the trick. 

     

    @Miss K In Fall:  have anyone tried oral sex to give you an orgasm?  Most guys are not patient enough to spend enough time down there to make any real progress, but it is worth a try if you haven't tried it already. 

    I always say.....  You must preheat the oven before you can bake the cookies @_@ You never know it may work....

     

     

  • Simen Stensvoll

    well

    i can cum by touching myself,sometimes some guy can make me cum by his mouth or hand as well

    i just haven't experienced  a vaginal orgasm yet...

     

  • Minger
    Minger wrote:

    girl on top.

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahahaha ... spread the words, spread whatever, Miss K has a "problem", and who would like to volunteer to help?

     

  • Simen Stensvoll

    .....i don't think a volunteer could  solve my problem...

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

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    Hahahaha ... calling for any guy who wants to give it a try ...

  • Kodi
    Kodi wrote:

    @ Miss K:  You are probaby right.  A volunteer will probably do you no good.  Some girls either cannot have vaginal orgasms, or just need to have a perfect stimilation for a vaginal orgasm.  I always heard this and did not believe it until my ex provided a challenge.  There is always a sollution I guess.  Oral or foreplay before intercourse. 

    If he does not want to do it everytime to let you get yours then he does not deserve you.

  • Petter Meisfjordskar

    Hot in here!

  • Simen Stensvoll

    hmmm,don't worry,i always have some fun

    i think the process of the sexual activities more important...most time i almost reach the top,but was too exhausted  to achieve

    i will report the discovery if i got one day;)

  • Jamie Wen
    Jamie Wen wrote:

    Seems like everybody here are very experienced.

    Someone want to share G-spot orgasms or female ejaculation thing?

  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Hahahha, above, is that why you are adding to the original thread some spices?
  • Simen Stensvoll

    is it stupid to say that?

  • Peter S 李贝勒

    @ jamie

    i lived the experience of the feminin ejaculation, it was funny, i was a little bite surprise, but by the way u sure that u did a good job. ahah

  • Joakim Madsen
    Joakim Madsen wrote:

    @ Miss K In Fall

    If you serious, wrap the book page  and go to the Lab, got enough theories in here already....

    Choose an "expert" ( maybe in here ,  and start doing the thing

    U have the right to enjoy  pleasure on the same footage  you sometime endure pain !!

  • Annie Ann
    Annie Ann wrote:

    i believe communication is very important during sex, tell you partner what turns you on and what makes you feel really good, it'll help you a lot, and i think every woman is capable of  having an orgasm, lie to your partner about your truth feelings is disgraceful and unnecessary.

  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Telling your partner is great, but study him first. Some traditional ones might think you are under looking them as in sex.
  • Joakim Madsen
    Joakim Madsen wrote:

    @ Hazel Anne

    You damn right,  I share !

  • Rebecca Arnesen

    sexcellent thread

     

  • Petter Meisfjordskar

    Does someone end what he did not start or just leave it and go to another?

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