Discussion » Dating & Romance » "I love u" or "stay with u" ?

  • Chaton Du Nounours
    Chaton Du Nounours wrote:
    Someone told me the most wonderful three words in the world is "stay with u" rather than "I love u".
    then I asked many people a question, "I love u" and "stay with u", which one do u think is more important ?
    and as u can image, the answers r different from person to person.
    someone may once in love so deeply but got hurt badly, then they just wanna live a simple life, with a simple guy . maybe they dont love them so much, but they can just live a quiet life with them. they feel love is not so important, and the people who can stay beside u r more valuable.
    someone just love certain ones so badly that they wanna stay with him/her even he/she doesnt love them. they just cant live without thier beloved ones.
    someone choose to give up love for sth else. pressure from others, money, status……
    and of course, there r always people who believe in love. they wont accept people they dont love or people who dont love them on whatever conditions.

    then. what's ur opinion?
    ——————————

    还是想附中文……

    “我爱你” 还是 “在一起”, 那个更重要?
    当时看到那句话,说“世界上最美的三个字不是我爱你,而是在一起”就震了下……深以为是……后来遇到一些事情又很犹豫……感觉是这样,“在一起”能让你不alone,但是“我爱你”才能真的让人不lonely……
    于是调查下……
  • pommie
    pommie wrote:
    > what's ur opinion?

    You should try to write standard English.

    What you wrote was too difficult and painful for me to read.
  • Synne Syverstad
    I m sorry……I will work harder to improve……
  • pommie
    pommie wrote:
    Thank you.

    Which foreign do you think is the most romance?
  • Alicia WANG
    Alicia WANG wrote:
    找个爱的人在一起呗
    如果两个人真的相爱,如今这种社会,在一起有什么难的.
    因为这样那样的原因没有在一起,只能说其中至少有一方不是真爱,或者爱的不够
    当然如果有一方死了那就没办法了
    那种嘴上特别多情,一天说八遍我爱你,但是不跟你在一起的人,一脚踹边上去
  • Da Fan
    Da Fan wrote:
    如果真是“我爱你”,当然就想着“在一起”,就算因为种种原因不在一起,很快也会努力地“在一起”的。没什么哪个比哪个更重要的,“在一起”却心猿意马的多了去了,成天说“我爱你”却什么实质的东西都没有,也是一件很容易的事儿。

    毛主席不是说嘛,不以结婚为目的的恋爱都是耍流氓。这话放现在显然不对,但是,如果对方对你真有感情,他总是会盘算着一步一步走下去。男人嘛,每天说说“我爱你”,然后该玩儿他的玩儿他的,该想他的想他的,晚上回家跟你OOXX一下,永远也不想谈今后,不想明天,美其名曰“简单的爱”,哪个男人不乐意这样。可是呢,你既听到“我爱你”了,俩人又“在一起”了,对他而言高兴得很,可你而言够了么?

    所以说,还是对方的意愿和行动最重要。

    当然了,现代社会的恋爱形式多种多样,很多人就是简单地找个伴儿,这样也挺好的。不过呢,你要是认真了,非还想知道你那男人对你怎样,上面这些可以女生参考。我乐于见到一切两情相悦的美好事情,不管是婚姻,还是恋爱,还是找伴儿,还是炮儿友,只要双方想法一样,都很好。唯独麻烦的就是,很多姑娘啊,总是抱着一颗跟对方完全不对等的心:自己想着婚姻,对方却想着恋爱;自己想着恋爱,对方却想着找炮儿友。一句话,自己明明目的不是那么“酷”,而对方明明又符合所有“酷”的表现,可就还是宁可成天跟那儿幻想着些什么。要不说嘛,让女人离开自己的混蛋男人,有时候真是一件很困难的事儿 ;)
  • Da Fan
    Da Fan wrote:
    嗯...男人总是看男人更清楚些吧
  • Xx
    Xx wrote:
    “我想你”
    在我们在没有在一起的时候,我希望偶尔闲暇的时候他会说这三个字;
    在我们在一起很久以后,我仍然希望在宁静的某一天午后,他突然说这三个字。
    他爱不爱你,你是可以感觉到的,所以不必说;要不要在一起,互相都会知道的,所以也不需要说;只有某一些瞬间如果他不说,你是不会确切知道他在做什么的。
  • Truls Skaalbones
    你孤独寂寞是你一个人的事,不是说找个人填补一下,做你所谓的另一半就能让你不孤独寂寞。
  • Synne Syverstad
    firstly……大家帮我鉴别一个事情……那个一楼说我英语差的在三楼讲的话是嘛意思?
    @Pomegranate ,”Which foreign do you think is the most romance? “
    I really cant understand ur ”standard English“……
  • Albulena Imeri
    It seems to be mocking. 就是效仿。 你有思想, 英语也不错。
  • Synne Syverstad
    JimmyBond ,谢啦~
    莫奕迅,Thanks~I think so~ and I m here not only to improve my English, but also to get in touch with the minds of native speakers~ as I feel the minds r souls of the language~
    Btw, ur name is interesting~ do u know 陈奕迅?
  • Minger
    Minger wrote:
    Sparky,你的英语相当不错。那个烂石榴的英语差很多,你甭管她即可。
  • Da Fan
    Da Fan wrote:
    LS的中文也很强大!哈哈哈
  • Minger
    Minger wrote:
    But as to your main question, I totally agree with Alicia. I suppose there are other factors though. Won't most poor girls here leave the one they love for someone who has money? Love is great, but it's not a luxury that everyone can afford.
    Also, I think it's hard to feel the same kind of "love" as the first time you really love someone, so instead of “我爱你” people only get “我们还是坚持在一起吧,反正两口子比较配合。” Of course, they will still say “我爱你”, it just means something different.
  • Shukri Olad
    Shukri Olad wrote:
    两个互相说“我爱你”的人,必然想要“在一起”。
    两个“在一起”的人,却不一定都是对方想说“我爱你”的人。

    人生本来冷清,找个人作伴而已。
  • Åse Marie Strand
    nothing is forever...
  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)
    ...

    Hahahaha... it would seem English is the language in season (for this thread anyway) ...

    As I am looking at this from a platonic level, I think there is one more level called "live" and it is slightly different from "stay" ...

    "Love" is easy ... mainly emotional stuff and nearly no rationale behind it, I dont suppose I need to explain that ...

    "Stay" ... a mix of emotion and rationale ... friends do come and go, but not necessarily living together ... some choose to stick (or stay) with you, some choose to question you, doubt you, betray you and then leave you ...

    "Live" ... the level beyond "stay" ... two people choose to share the rest of their "lives" together ... that should be straight forward, right?

    Bad night .. not much sleep ... not making much sense ...
  • Mikael Lønø
    Mikael Lønø wrote:
    原来不以结婚为目的的恋爱就是耍流氓是伟大的毛主席说的啊!找着根儿了,我说我听我之前朋友说的,我说他不能那么有才啊!
  • Synne Syverstad
    莫奕迅,great ! I also like him a lot~! especially his slow songs ! always touch me so deeply~ I like him as much as……as……I like the leaves in the autumn~ the album I like best is while my favorite song is 好久不见~
  • Synne Syverstad
    同志们,我明儿个考专四,为我祈祷吧!!!
  • Sally
    Sally wrote:
    as a female, we want men who love us.
    but for me, it was kind of freak me out when somebody told me that '3 words, 8 letters'....i more like to hear that he wants to stay with me...though, he means that he likes me a lot...lol , what am i talking about
  • Kevin Pan
    Kevin Pan wrote:
    I think these 2 words should stay connect with each other, if some circumstance doesnt allow the one who said "I love to" to "Stay with you", then try to find someone who can.
  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)
    ...

    Hahahaha ... as people, our basic instant is to "take" but not "give", and we all want to be liked or even loved, so it is not limited to just females ... or next thing we know, someone will start talking about which race or skin color needs more love and/or can give more love, and then we will go back to that discussion again ... hahaha ...

    When we "travel", we all search for things (and people) that make us happy and fulfilled along the way, depending on our individual goal(s), and in our individual way(s), so whether it be "stay", "love", "live" etc, these are just "life styles" of choice ... most people might not see or choose it right now, but might "change course" somewhere in the future ... I myself did not think about getting married until 36 ...

    My thought is ... choose what you want now (or for the next 30 seconds), and you are allowed to change your mind because these is no shame in it, as long as it does not bring harm or sadness to others ... if you have difficulty making choice, go seek advice, but you have to make your own decision ...

    That's all for now :)

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