I used to have pretty good gaydar back home, but I haven't been able to recalibrate it since coming to China. I just can't tell, unless a dude is a total flamer with a Xiao Shenyang accent. And considering the hostility Chinese society has for people with
alternative lifestyles, I'm not surprised. Gay dudes in China are motherfucking STEALTH.
So I guess the homophobia many people are expressing is understandable. Because there are gays among us and we have no way of knowing they are gay. They could just jump out of the bushes or come running out of a dark hutong at any moment, and then...
Do you feel safe?
However, when I go to gay bars, none of the gay dudes hit on me and all the straight girls smile, so I'm guessing the community has its own set of signals that I haven't learned. Then again, I'm not handsome enough to be twink gay, and I'm not tough enough
to be bear gay.
Shorter Nina: "The gays, they are icky! They have sex in the pooper holes! Oh noes that's wrong!"
Straight people do the same shit on the subway every day. Who gives a shit? If it bothers you, don't look. You do not have the right to not be offended.
@John: Oh my GaGet-the-fuck-out before I take a skinny dump on your scalp, you fucking robot.