Discussion » Dating & Romance » How long would you date with your gf/bf?

  • Maggie Wang
    Maggie Wang wrote:
    Depends on
    A. when you have time
    B. feeling
    C. regular per week
    D.regular per month
    D.regular everyday
    E. when he/she date you
  • Joakim Berg Solum
    Monday - Mary
    Tuesday - Tricia
    Wednesday - Wendy
    Thursday - Tina
    Friday - Fay
    Saturday - Sandy
    Sunday - Sarina
  • Fernand
    Fernand wrote:
    no bf`````
  • Peter Baird
    Peter Baird wrote:
    4 months. I think that is mighty generous of me, but I believe it takes a long period of time to get to know someone. If it isn't happening after four months, it is probably time to say good-bye.

    This is the voice of experience talking, folks.
  • Minger
    Minger wrote:
    What's your question? What's the minimum time you would be with your gf/bf before considering marriage? Or what's the maximum time you would date your gf/bf before breaking up?
    I would say the absolute minimum for considering marriage would be two years, living together at least one year and everything's perfect.
    No maximum time.
    Or is your question how much time would you spend with your bf/gf in general? I think a minimum of 2-3 nights a week together, and at least 1 day off per week is good.
  • Miriam Pedersen
    I understand the queston as: how much time would you regularly spend with you gf/bf?

    And if you ask me, as much as both feel comfortable. And that's pretty individual.
  • Daniel
    Daniel wrote:
    I remember reading a famous blogging Escort in the UK mention that she had a 1 hour rule for relationships and thinking it was pretty good: basically she wouldn't date anyone that lived closer than about a 1 hour journey or anyone that lived further than about a 1 hour journey. This way you don't have your gf/bf around you all the time invading your person space but it also means you see them regularly without having to make a big deal about plans to go see them.

    This thread reminded me of that, and it's ideal for people like me that likes time alone.
  • Maggie Wang
    Maggie Wang wrote:
    do you think how much time would you spend with your gf/bf that means how relationship you have?
    if you would spend with him/her frequently, your relationship is good.
    if you would spend with him/her less, your relationship will be broken up?
  • Daniel
    Daniel wrote:
    No. But I'm talking about me: relationship are all subjective things between two people with different wants and needs, so what makes a good relationship will often be different for different people.

    But for me there is a middle-ground. If a girlfriend wants to see me all the time or comes over to see me all the time, then it's suffocating. If seeing my girlfriend involves a long journey which means it only happens a few times every month, it won't really work.
  • Minger
    Minger wrote:
    @maggie, I think the only important thing is that both people agree on how much time they want to spend together. If both people want to be together all the time, it's fine. If both people only want to see eachother a couple times a month, that's fine too. it's only a problem when the needs are different.
    The only exception I would say is a long distance relationship where people don't see eachother. That's just doomed, because eventually someone will find a way to meet their needs that aren't being met.
  • Xx
    Xx wrote:
    F regular per season
  • Bendik Johansen
    I hated "dating".. if I liked a girl i wanted to be together as much as possible. All or nothing, thats just me.

    If she was a "professional dater" I never liked it for long..
    In the US these days theres a "3rd date rule" - you have sex, or stop dating. Crazy!
  • Ms Bla
    Ms Bla wrote:
    regular per 20 years..
  • Mathew Abisai
    Mathew Abisai wrote:
    never went beyond 3 months after my long term (6 years relationship)....
  • Undermoonlight
    It depends how long she can stay cool...so long as things get boring, it's time to say byebye...no need to have a time or moral restriction for this matter; otherwise, you'll get pretty painful...from the life experience of a man with 20 years of dating hot chicks and eventually being forced into marriage by several women (including my grandmother, mother, aunts and gf [now wife])...and the current siituation is that i think about suicide from time to time...My point is that if you connect morality to marriage, your personal happiness will, to a large extent, be in danger...i mean, marriage basically annihilates individuality...you see, at this moment, when i'm typing these words, someone is holding a highheel and ready to attack...
  • Keera Lee Farrington
    I am ever so bored and aiming to reply to as much discussion as my two fingers on the keyboard would allow.

    it really depends but some people have tendancies to force things when it just wasnt not happening, it get to a point where u know u dnt wanna spend the rest of your life with them and vice versa, for me 2 weeks. and if all is well after two weeks maybe 7-8 months, my eyes starts wandering, shocking I knw!!
  • Adrian Borgenholt
    One dinner plus a few cups of coffee.
  • Malin Aaker
    Malin Aaker wrote:
    5 minutes every 2 months is enough for me.
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    How do you define dating? Going out together before marriage or going out together before sex? If before marriage, then a year can be enough. But if before extracting some gold, then one month is enough. Jah bless all of you.
  • Mathew Abisai
    Mathew Abisai wrote:
    one month...thats the best i can do for her
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Abisai, hehheeee, just like me.
  • Erik Røger
    Erik Røger wrote:
    Your english is poor doesnt make much sense.

    Are you saying how long have you dated a previous for bf/gf?
    or
    How long could you date somebody (bf/gf) for?
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    What do you feel Sinikka? You feel me?
  • Stian Moe
    Stian Moe wrote:
    ok, who can explain me what dating means??? n Cuba we go for all or nothing, we dont really date, so pls give me a hand here hehe
  • Mohammed Abdi
    Mohammed Abdi wrote:
    @Ivonne
    what is"for all or nothing"?
    elaborate for us, sis
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Mike, people that care about English are in schools. We can get any meaning we deem fit from the topic created and say whatever we feel is the right answer. For English, there is a section for that.

    Any way, back to the topic, dating is defined according to the two parties these days. So we can not make the best of definition about dating.
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    What are the ingredients of dating? Is dating the same as relationship? Can we say that married people are in a relationship because they have some kind of dealing with each other. Is sex imperative in a relationship or date? What do you Yes Sir make of a date? How long would it take you to feel bound to your date and to ask for sex?
  • Andrew Gordon
    Andrew Gordon wrote:
    it is not like that i don't want to have a bf,but it will talke a part of my time to be with him, i have got lots of plans in mind, image that he would control me as my mother do,then i would get freak out...
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Leah, you must be educated. Many educated ladies feel bad about men showing some control. That is why men that marry educated ladies end up cheating them, with the most ugly and less status women that are down to earth.
  • Andrew Gordon
    Andrew Gordon wrote:
    and why we need to get marry?think about this, we all know that what would happen after years and years of being with each other,we get bored,we will lose the exciting heart-pounding moments,we will get tired all the time-taking care of the babies, doing house works,watching ur partner grow old and sloppy, the u would find out the dreams we got when we were young have gone far away and it is impassible to make it come true, so this is what i think, and this is also we i see from all the married couples.
  • Andrew Gordon
    Andrew Gordon wrote:
    paby, u know how much i like u,if it is not u who always always make me want to run away, i would like to hold u and catch u forever...
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    @Yes Sir,
    you are damn right. I wish ladies new that a man who controls you is one that loves you most. If your man does not mind about you and does not show some control, leaves you to stray around with whatever you like, just know he does not like you so much and he is bound to get a mistress any time. Mr Yes Sir, get your full head out so we see where the words of wisdom come from. Hahhaaaaaaa.
  • Andrew Gordon
    Andrew Gordon wrote:
    right,MR what?cool? then tell me sth,if ur gf always ask u where u r, who r u spending time with? what r u doing right now? why r u do this?why do u say this ,what do u mean by this, u should do this with me,u shouldn't do that bescasue it is not right......what would u think, tell me u still think that is the best choice of urs....
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    @Leah,
    It shows that she cares. All her attention is on me. So i get to understand her character so that i do not feel offended about her comments, especially if she means good. It shows protection Leah. You will understand what i mean one day when a man does not mind about you even if you get back late, never advises you nor ask you anything. How would you feel?
  • 残乐
    残乐 wrote:
    hehe Leah, Try squeezing some time to watch Up In The Air. Well, watching that then tell me. Do you feel sad about the leading actor and pay attention to the reason of getting marriage in that movie.
    You know actually I was feeling the same as you do, but after watching the movie I kinda can't get rid of the hopelessing eyes of him~~ that was shocking indeed
  • Andrew Gordon
    Andrew Gordon wrote:
    ok then.....thank u....i mean that....
  • Andrew Gordon
    Andrew Gordon wrote:
    残乐,i know it is our nature that always want those that we can not get,but, after seeing all the women or mans trying so hard to keep one home together, they pay too much but did not get the pay back, i can not imagen myself to be in the same situation,i always believe that what is u got in hand is the most important, the skill,the ability of not only survive but also stand up high in this society. so that is what i think,family is easy to break without those we depend on,so why not making urself better before?
  • Hans Christian Eriksson
    If you are lihai, you just need a couple of hours to become bf and gf. Efficiency in everything
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Leah,
    Is this a sonnet? Are you a poet? Why write in abstract. Any way, i did not get the point clearly, especially when you talk of "making yourself better before". Marriage is a life time commitment. Anything can happen during this period. It takes a strong heart to sustain a marriage. If you hear clearly from married people, you would not get married. But they keep quiet about so many things. Love and marriage is what you make it. The best way is understanding each other, at times it requires you to be a fool to the other, but above all, making the best of each other. The rule of marriage is never to show the public your linen. Otherwise, many people would not get married when you hear stories of married people.
  • Andrew Gordon
    Andrew Gordon wrote:
    why we need to endure? if we don't feel happy,Go. if we feel bored,change! people chose whatever the life-style they want to chose,but the most importantly, we respect the choices of each other and let us be whoever we really are.
  • 残乐
    残乐 wrote:
    yeah I could. i can keep on trying to improve myself, and you, I mean my soulmates, if there is any~ is that better that we grow up together~
  • 残乐
    残乐 wrote:
    well i am kinda freaking out for the words I wrote above. I actually did not well prepared to make a family~ i better shut up~
  • Andrew Gordon
    Andrew Gordon wrote:
    haaaaaaaaaaaaa, real man with true words.....
  • Aina Berge
    Aina Berge wrote:
    @Yes Sir. wrote:
    So , that is mean you do not want to get a serious relationship ,, just want to get a contract relationship .... i think if someone want a serious relationship that one will never think about when her(his) will go down ... just think it will be for ver...

    The term relationship can be defined as a particular type of connection existing among a set of people related closely to each other or having any kind of dealings. Trust is the fundamental thing of any relationship.
    =================================================

    Agree with you at 100%
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    When do you call a man your "boy friend"? Claire and Leah. How do you know that he is my boy friend or not. What determines that? Is it when dating or after having sex with him? again, why not push on a bit and see if things will work out. we can never get 100% of each other. and if you love a man 100%, then you are wrong. You need to reserve a 30 for disappointment, so that you do not feel bad when axed.
  • Sofia
    Sofia wrote:
    no bf
    no comment
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    @sofia
    hahhahhahhahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, wo wo woo oooooooooooooooooo, you make me roar.
    "no bf
    no comment"
    hahhaaaaa, humorous.
  • Lisa Pedersen
    Lisa Pedersen wrote:
    sorry but I do not think these are cliches ...

    and in love there is no certainty, we can never know if we'll all love life ...
    how many guys say that they love their girlfriends but do not want to move in with her does not want to marry or have civil partnerships or have children because he is not sure he is not ready ...
  • 残乐
    残乐 wrote:
    CooL Be cool, you are too into this topic~
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    You surely would not have said this of me when i see you peeping here so often. Anyway, you do not want me in, so i am out. Never to see me here again. I go back to my jungle. Cheers
  • Ayka
    Ayka wrote:
    everyday。。。。。。
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Ayka, you look sturbon, chicky and very playful.!!!!!!!!
  • Lucia
    Lucia wrote:
    Honestly, i alway playing with boys the ages from 30-50 be4. suddenly, i decided to end the life style after 28 years. now, i live with the greatest single life.hehehe
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Lucia, do not be proud of this. Nature will call one day.
  • Lucia
    Lucia wrote:
    @Cool, I'm not proud of it and showing off, this is what i want to say. just it!
  • LL
    LL wrote:
    if the man I really like and care, I want to see him more frequently, in the same time, I am afraid we meet too frequently and I will feel boring or he will feel boring and not feel attractive with each other...
  • Lucia
    Lucia wrote:
    @Lisa,i agree with you. i always thinking about if we break up somedays what could i do when we fall in love with.it's not good, isn't it?
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    Sorry, i was kicked out, but i want to ask Madam Lucia, can you asure yourself that you will not get into it again?
  • Mohammed Abdi
    Mohammed Abdi wrote:
    @Lucia
    u should post your odyssey here.
    i shall sign up for being your fan.
  • Valery
    Valery wrote:
    Haven't seen her since June 2009. But.... she's coming on April 20th. OH YES!
  • Ayka
    Ayka wrote:
    hohoho....I don't think so ...
  • Petter Meisfjordskar
    I gave up on the topic and now just enjoy looking at Ayka's naughty haunting look. Hahhahhaa. Very stubborn indeed. Same look as Bliar

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