Judging from your numerous forum posts about sex (or in your case, the lack of it) in this country, it appears that you have a quite a few hang ups with the opposite sex.
Here's a helpful hint:
No country or it's residents are all THIS or all THAT.
your point is?
My point is that you should stop issuing blanket statements like, "The Chinese are ALL this or all THAT."
I'd also advise you to stop grappling with your insecurities on a public forum.
Just some helpful advice.
West of Beijing and East of Beijing seems to be a totally different world.
why do I all the time see the opposite situations compared to what u post here. "Traditional people" is a word we laugh about a lot among friends.
That's cool, Isai. It's just when I hear foreign folks constantly issuing erroneous black and white statements about Chinese culture, it really grinds my gears.
Hope you find the answers to your questions.
we need to know, we belong to you guys now.. we want to be consumed into the current culture we are. but we are facing a biggest cultural transformation (its a challenge), we need to understand where exactly are we heading our selves into.......i guess u just have to try to understand it in that way and ur gears could gleasily run again
according to how i know its the same....i wanna know if the way they describe being traditional, does it really mean they really dont have sex?
i just think there is something fishy about them.
i didnt judge...i wanna know
actually nowaday not most of chinese do like you said.some people even said it's hard to find a virgin now.
ok guys, u can all see I even changed my name my profile picture and even asked some to remove me as their friends if they want cos i think this site is really going into my nerves making me a crazy person but its coll thats all came to an end I am gonna go slow
I am sure it happened just like it does before marriage.
"sex after marriage only."-who?
half of my friends was exactly like that when i was in china
some of my firend hit to 35 and not even have sex with a man , that's comes too in this country, i like her , sth about the resistence, insistence
, i like people keep their own way of life and never influced buy nomatter what happend arround ..
exemple in USA, the actress which play in " the friends" phoebe, she do the first sex after her marriage in her 30 years old
if , i supposed , people get more and more stupid ... and lost so easly, then i also wanna to ask , what's the problem ... bla bla bla ...
"I like people keep their own way and never influenced by no matter what happened around" - I like people who follow their own way, too. However, people never influenced by things happened around? who? We are all influenced by something. Take this vague "topic" as an example. Someone choose to only have sex after marriage, why? born to be such a person? No, he/she's influened by certain tradition or trend. Their are some complicated things, too complicated that someone need to analysis lots of things happened around, hear lots of voices and use his/her own logical reasoning to make a choice. Whether having sex only after marriage is not such a thing. it's nothing abt right or wrong, it's nothing abt truth, it's all abt personal choice. I personally cannot understand why people choose to have sex only after marriage, but I won't say they are illogical, coz it's nothing abt logic. What I hate is one group of people keep on trying to convince the other group of people that keep virginity till married is a what-the-fuck "virtue", or kind of logical decision, and I also hate the other group keep on trying to point out that the "traditional" group of people "out-dated". So, you know what? in my mind, im not modern, coz it's nothing abt the so called "modern"~
Women have to survive. They only have their looks and they have to use that to get them in a decent situation before those tits sag and whatnot. They might get mad at such a statement but they know its true.
Women only have their looks? Did you just step out of a time machine from the 1950s or something? While we all know that a double standard exists regarding men and women in terms of looks and how it relates to their professional careers, the lack of quantifiers in that statement is alarming. If you said that to any of my highly-educated and accomplished female friends, they'd rip you to fucking shreds.
Thanks Maria. We finally agree on something.
Yeah, I think it is important, John, when you issue misogynist statements about women, claiming that they'd better get when the gettin' is good because they only have their looks to go by.
In terms of "schools that rank higher," higher than what, exactly?
I suppose that the entire female gender must win Saint John's approval to not be painted as money-grubbing hussies. Fair enough.
You don't know me, nor my friends, so it's a bit presumptious to state that your friends have gone to better schools. That's an objective statement.
I'm not sensitive. I'm just reasonably asking you to back up your statements.
If I need any additional clarification on "pluses," I'll be sure to let you know.
i think on this site we have some of u that concentrate on people than just concentrating on the subject at hand. and it ends up as war or words among each other...why dont one of u guys start a discussion related to mocking each other and try to judge each other?
No one's mocking anyone, FMS Abisai. We're simply two gentlemen who have different opinions on the fairer sex.
Feel free to visit the Yo' Mama thread for some solid trash talking.
4 years yesterday, actually. Whoop.
Thanks. Hoping to see more before I turn into one of those bitter expats who hangs out at the Den, grumbling about the good ol' days and whining about all the young'uns.
You too. Good luck with life in the States... make sure to avoid making any statements that will result in you getting slapped around.
I guess thats why, I only been here for 2 years and been an active member of this site probably just for 2 months,
John and I were having a rational discussion, 马克, and managed to agree to disagree. I'm not sure why you're so upset.
I'd comment more, but your fractured use of the English language is giving me a headache and I'm afraid that I have neither the time nor patience to pick through your response in order to find everything that'd be wrong with it.
Hey! Don't talk about 50 Cent that way!
That's excellent logic, 马克.
Here's an idea:
Learn how to debate using logic - not inchoate threats using street talk - and get back to me. There are plenty of good English schools here in Beijing. Should you need a recommendation, I'd be more than happy to help you out.
Ok I think dat maybe nex tim I be try to tak at yo level... so we be seein da logics and and maybe undastand each odda better cuz ya like yeah... know what I means?