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  • Dearcc Ll
    Dearcc Ll wrote:
    here is a tough question for u :what u will say to your gf when u saw her ex's pic in her car?
  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)
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    Hmmm ... stupid question, why (and where) would one put photo in the car? Glovebox? Windscreen?

    I consider myself a very jealous person, so if the relationship had gone "deep" enough, my GF should know that and this is unlikely to happen in the first place ... or if it does, that just means that the relationship if not tight or close enough ...

    However, to answer your question: if it does, I would be furious (mad), and first question would be something like "what is this doing here" ...
  • KA
    KA wrote:
    You do not have to worry too much, ex is ex. That is past. If you have love and respect for your girlfriend, you should not say something.
  • Ci Jiayin
    Ci Jiayin wrote:
    I think I will say: You know what, I'm the one next to you now!!
  • Winnie
    Winnie wrote:
    no, probably pissed....why the hell would he do that....if he forgot that pic in that car, that's fine.
    if he keeps the ex pic on purpose..my friend...that means: maybe he's not over her and he's not that into you(general you)
  • Kodi
    Kodi wrote:
    Oh Winnie, stop that girl =). The truth is it was probably forgotten about the picture or he is a great guy and cares about the people who's lives have affected his and vise versa. Also dating is pretty much a progressive thing meaning that people always look for someone who is better than the last (The ex is most likely not as good to him as you are and that is why he left her and then decided to be with you). I learned that the hard way, however I think it is a sign to get out of the relationship if a girl is so jealous that she cannot handle a picture of another woman. People can be friends even after a relationship. It is actually therapeutic to be friends with your ex. It helps with your security and things of that sort. Plus I don't like to just throw people away like they meant nothing to me. I hope this is helpful =)
  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)
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    Spoken as the one who kept the photo ... I did keep a photo of me and my ex deep down in the closet for a few years after she left me (2000), and some time after I met my wife in 2002, the photo was gone, just cant remember exactly when I threw it away though ...
  • Pete DeMola
    Pete DeMola wrote:
    I wouldn't care. Once I found nude pics of my ex girlfriend's former lover on her computer and we laughed about it. And I agree with Kodi completely.
  • Richie
    Richie wrote:
    I keep pictures of my ex - and I've shown them to my current gf. Though it didn't work out and we had to split, I still do have a lot of great memories to cherish. Besides, can you ever forget your ex as if she never existed? Her memories and intentions can be your nightmare and not a photograph which you can see in front of you.

    I'd say - 'oh wow, a nice pic! when was it taken?' - and expect my gf to explain why the pic's there!
  • Winnie
    Winnie wrote:
    Pete, on the pc it is ok.
    Kodi, no, it's not jealous. i give lots and lots of freedom to the other person when im in a relationship.
    but if he keeps his ex's pic in his car, that means something. it's almost like keep her pic in your wallet. something's wrong. unless you keep all pics ofeveryone important to you in your car.
    i keep the pictures of my ex(s). but i dont use them as wallpaper on my pc. you know what i mean? it's sensitive stuff, if a guy cares about how his gf feels, probably he woulnt put his ex's pic in the car where she can easily see.
    well, every relationship is different. if im in a relationship with lots of trust, he can sleep in the same room with a female friend came visit and i wouldnt mind(prefer not to tho)
  • Winnie
    Winnie wrote:
    also, i dont mean throw her picture. but pls put it away
  • Kodi
    Kodi wrote:
    I agree with you Winnie. You sound like a nice and reasonable woman. I am sorry I misunderstood your comment. I hope you now I was not picking on you =) I just like to explore points and boundaries.

    Ok now to the juicy stuff. Since it is ok to put the pictures in the PC. What if it is an amateur porn video of your BF or GF doing the deed? Media is media right? This is just a question :P for kicks. Lets see who and how accepting we all are?
  • Da Fan
    Da Fan wrote:
    If she forgot it in the car, totally OK. If she kept it intensionally and accidentally found by me, not OK, I'll tell her that she should trust me and never consider her beautiful memory a bad thing to hide.
  • Da Fan
    Da Fan wrote:
    Wow, Kodi, it will be one of my best sex appetizer :-)
  • Dearcc Ll
    Dearcc Ll wrote:
    yes....we can keep all the old stuff from our ex's...but not on pc....not in the wallet...not in the car....too sensitive....isnt it ?

    thanks for all your discussions....that was so great....
  • NN
    NN wrote:
    If I were boy,if the case happened on me,well,I would like to listen what is the story about her and her ex,if she wants to talk.If not,well,no a big problem,just take the pic away or if she wants to keep it as a memory,that would be fine,as long as she is still with me from her inside :)
  • Steven Ritter
    Steven Ritter wrote:
    Kodi and Pete I agree with, and certainly see Winnie's ponjt of view. seems put it away and forget it..asuming the current relationship is strong. Nina, you spoke my words as well. I totally agree with you.

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