Discussion » Health & Fitness » 相亲 blind date

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    对于相亲你排斥么? 有过很糟糕的相亲经历么?

    how do you think about blind date? did you have terrible experience?

  • Calvin Lee
    Calvin Lee wrote:

    还没经历过呢

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    .....那是当然 你那么小

    我应该表明对象是: 大龄青年 呵呵

  • Calvin Lee
    Calvin Lee wrote:

    没有啊,身边很多同学都有被家长安排去相亲的经历,我觉得挺有意思的

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    是嘛 这才几岁啊 就去相亲

    年轻人 趁着年轻赶紧好好工作吧

  • Calvin Lee
    Calvin Lee wrote:

    晕,这口吻听得我真不爽,不许倚老卖老

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    哈哈哈 谁说我老了呀?

  • Peter Baird
    Peter Baird wrote:

    Yeah...bad experience back in July. She said nothing. So I asked her questions. She answered in four word sentences. It wasn't lack of English skills, because she studied in Australia for a year. She just had poor social skills. I figured since she wasn't giving much information, I might as well talk about myself. She responded to everything I said with "cool".

     Since then I have limited my contact with people I meet online to e-mails, MSN chatting and text messaging. If after awhile you seem to be cool, you can come meet me wherever I'm going next and we'll take it from there. I will probably be with friends, so don't expect my undivided attention.

     In my experience, this is better. 1 on 1 meetings can be really uncomfortable. Group encounters tend to make people more relaxed and usually are fun...as opposed to one on one meetings, which mostly feel like work.

     

     

  • Calvin Lee
    Calvin Lee wrote:

    你是没直说,字里行间的渗透

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    不用透露  我都 66了 当然老 哈哈哈

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to Peter Baird:  know what,   if she was nice that would be lucky for you..my friends had more terrible experience!  met the other who with bad manner , disgusting!

    about group encounters, yes, mabye would be fun and relax, but its hard to find correct one,,,well, maybe not, who knows. 

    about 1 to 1 meeting..i think it will be better if you know her at first, at least know what she looks like. i hate to meet people you dont know his face .

     

  • Chrisming
    Chrisming wrote:

    南方的MM似乎很乐于相亲,哈哈...

  • Lisa
    Lisa wrote:

    相亲~~相亲~~也不错啦~~哈哈~

  • Tiantian
    Tiantian wrote:

    never tried it before. a few of my friends tried it, they told me their terrible experiences. =(

     

  • Calvin Lee
    Calvin Lee wrote:

    切,你干嘛不直接说99,那才有说服力呢

  • Pete DeMola
    Pete DeMola wrote:

    It seems like the concept of a "blind date" has evaporated with the increased role that the Internet plays in our daily lives.

    Prior to SNS sites, online dating portals and the dozens of additional technological tools that we've come to rely on, a blind date consisted of a mutual party connecting Person A with Person B as a result of perceived shared similar interests.

    Prior to the date, the parties didn't communicate beforehand. (I think.)

    In 2009, how do you define a "blind date?" Is it still blind if you've chatted for several hours on MSN? Sent a quiverful of tweets to their Twitter account... exchanged messages on this website?

    When the two parties finally meet in "real life" after engaging in the aforementioned behavior, is the date still "blind," or do you feel as if you've already come to know them?

    Just food for thought.

  • Erin SHI
    Erin SHI wrote:

    To Peter:

    It's not like that anymore.

    More and more close friends like to be the matchmaker, make appointment for thier single friends to meet, sometimes it works.

     

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to Chrisming:  我可不认为南方的MM喜欢相亲 我认识的北京女孩都相亲2年了 好在现在修成正果了

    to Zhaohong: 那还是因为你没有经验 有了经验 就知道要说些什么了 我去问问有经验的人 然后告诉你哈 呵呵

     

     

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    @ Peter: hehe  you know the tradional 相亲, things are changing...thanks Erin SHI for giving the right answer.

    @Pete DeMola;  yes, the definition of blind date is a little different,,so what...in fact, i didnt mean meet people who you have talked in internet already,,i mean "blind date", friends introduce you to someone, or group meeting party..but i prefer to meet friend who i talked already,,but only for friendship....now, im not sure...

     

  • Lily
    Lily wrote:

    完全不靠谱,特没劲,一点有趣的感觉都没有

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    我严重同意!!

    有过一次经历, 当时看到对方趴在盘子上吃面条的样子,恨不得拿块砖拍下去,让他的脸和盘子彻底接触上!

    然后就很沮丧, 觉得特委屈.

  • Buddha Inside
    Buddha Inside wrote:

    Even don't dare to think about it!

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    hahaha

  • Checkered
    Checkered wrote:

    shuierya mm, thats too funny, if i were you, id have dont that!

  • Angelvivi
    Angelvivi wrote:

    我也相过亲,好几次了,但是没有什么感觉

    老妈很着急啊

  • Wei Wei
    Wei Wei wrote:

    haha i like the name "blind date". I duno how you can go out with a guy/girl that you don't know before. I reckon it's quite weird to go to such date under parents' or friends' arrangement.

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    呵呵 Cady Cui   know how much i did control myself dont do that? hehee

     

    to Wei Wei:  blind meeting is good, blind date...hmmmmm, a little weird. but more and more young people go to attend blind date party.

  • 天蓬元帥
    天蓬元帥 wrote:

    沒试过.. 我想一定挺好玩的... 兩个人你看著我, 我看著你..都不知道要说什么好... 哈哈....

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    如果让你看一个特别不顺眼的人  可一点都不好玩 哦

  • Erin SHI
    Erin SHI wrote:

    身边有好几对都是相亲成功的

    结婚以后还很幸福

    重要的是matchmaker要对双方都很了解

    成功的机率会大一些

  • 小唐豆
    小唐豆 wrote:

    我身边就有相亲成功的,不过失败的也不少,我觉得相亲失败主要就是大家都太忙了,没时间更深的了解,快餐文化不但改变了我们的饮食也改变了我们的生活。祝您好运

  • Jasmine Feng
    Jasmine Feng wrote:

    如果真的需要相亲 我觉得也不拒绝~~ 只要能遇见正确的人 嘿嘿

  • Fantastic
    Fantastic wrote:

    my wife is that we know each other through blind date, Erinshi is right, the matchmaker is very important.

  • Donald Lee
    Donald Lee wrote:

    A good method to find our love.  I have no experience yet.

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:
  • 陈思
    陈思 wrote:

    没相过,有点排斥,约束性太强

  • Lingling
    Lingling wrote:

    没有相过,感觉会笑场...

  • 赵恺
    赵恺 wrote:

    有个姐姐,相亲一年半至今还在坚持不懈的努力中。不过貌似她相亲只是出于应付家人而已吧。。。

  • Lily
    Lily wrote:

    最好先不要报希望,希望越大失望越大,我自己幻想的比较搞笑,其实可以完全当去见个新朋友,我想如果我去相亲第一面见他,我就说“hi,哥们,吃个饭,闲聊闲聊吧。”哈哈

  • Fang
    Fang wrote:

    没经验 还怕  太害羞

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to 赵恺: 我觉得她相亲不是应付 是因为相亲后发现其实相信的成功率一点都不高. 我们同事相了两年才相中一个 如果要靠相亲的话 还真得坚持一段时间呢

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to Fang:  跟害羞什么的没关系

  • Teresaliu
    Teresaliu wrote:

    ya,nowdays 相亲is different frm the traditional one,i think it is ok,and if the person  is introduced by ur relatives or good friends that u can trust,why don't we try it. i never try it,but my cousin has tried it.it  is good,and finally they get married.therefore,i think it is not bad.

  • Canny Lee
    Canny Lee wrote:

    目前还不需要,,要是这么发展下去,就需要了,,嘿嘿···

  • Lullabydidi
    Lullabydidi wrote:

    宁死不屈。

  • Fantastic
    Fantastic wrote:

    Moderator, it's true, we have been married for 2 years. my classmate of senior high school is our matchmaker.

  • 刘星
    刘星 wrote:

      no experience but I expect . I think it is mysterious.

  • Lisa Liu
    Lisa Liu wrote:

    相亲遇到顺眼的几率太小了点,觉得还是先稍有了解再见面的比较好,和完全不来电的人耗几个小时太折磨了

  • Yu Shuheng
    Yu Shuheng wrote:

    相亲?难道您嫁不出去了不成..?

  • YJ
    YJ wrote:
    其实相亲也挺有趣的,只是take it easy就好啦~说不定也会遇到不错的人:)至少经过阿姨大妈过滤过的,毕竟都不会太差
  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:
  • 蔡炎
    蔡炎 wrote:

    没参加过,不过我猜应该挺有意思的

  • IPaws Official

    Hmm... This topic recalls some terrible memory I had...

    I've had 2 blink dates, and they where all terribly unforgettable. One of the 2 girls i've met was the kind of 'topic terminator'. Our conversation was like:

    ME: I always go xxx and ooo after work, have fun and relax, how about you?

    She: go home...

    ME: Yeah, that's fine. Do you like reading?

    She: I rarely read.....

    ME: How 'bout music? What kinda music do you like?

    She: I don't listen to music much...

    ME: O...K...... Oh, the last movie I watched was cool, blah blah blah...... Which actor or actress do  you like?

    She: I don't watch movies, it's boring...

    ME: Umm.... how about games? Do you play computer games?

    She: yes.... I've played XXX game.

    ME: Oh! Cool! (Finally some topic) I was playing that too, we might have seen each other in game before! Blah Blah Blah........ When do you usually play that?

    She: I've quit playing that game 3  years ago.....

    ME: Oh, crap...... that's it......

    I mean, for god sakes, can't you respond me with just a few more words or finding another topic? @@"

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to Chris Jiang:  hahahaha......but,,,,man, you should asked her: what do you like to eat? i dont think she would reply: i seldom eat! hahaha

  • Catherine Hong

    觉得很不错啊,每一次见面都是一种期待和想象,因为你不知道他会是什么有哪个的,或张什么样。 有一个遐想的空间,呵呵~ 虽然没有过,但有机会也想尝试下,体会再说。

  • Denise CHEN
    Denise CHEN wrote:

    damn it, i am gonna give a shot!

  • ۰•❤❥Lindsay SoMaeng

    blind date is not dat bad tho, it depends on how 2 control it lor~  XD

  • 孽火
    孽火 wrote:

    it's good to have a blind date,but i'm not lucky enough!

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    i dont think so...

    well, we will see

  • Eagle Huang
    Eagle Huang wrote:

    in china , usually  only the girls aged near or over 30 would  take the blind date  unwillingly or willinglly,  it is  a feasible channel for girls or boys to search for  their Mr.right or Ms right. but  i just can not get used to that way untill now. 

  • Cani
    Cani wrote:

    相亲是什么啊

    是亲嘴的活动?

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to Eagle Huang: i dont think so! my colleague, girl, only 25yrs old. she took blind date...and other female colleagues, only 25-27 yrs old...

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to Cani: 如果相亲就能亲嘴的话 ,,,那还是够成功的 哈哈哈

  • Duobaan
    Duobaan wrote:

    对于相亲你排斥么? how do you think about blind date?

    楼主的问法俺有点异议~

    在中国,相亲一般是熟人介绍父母安排,尽管是撮合,也讲个般配,门当户对什么的。跟英语的blind dating 完全是两码儿事~ 

    相亲尽管显得守旧,blind dating 肯定十分盲目

     

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    ....???

  • Timothy Wang
    Timothy Wang wrote:

    hate blind date, hate it hate it hate it!!!

  • Ameng
    Ameng wrote:

    blind date= long term job interview, and free meal is always welcome!

  • Jacky Hu
    Jacky Hu wrote:

    yeah! blind date just like interview. I always feel a little uncomfortable...

     

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to Timothy Wang: why you hate it so much?

    to Koalakoala925: oh, i dont think it provides free meal always,  but ,,hmm, if it does,  :P

    to Jacky Hu:  interview? hehe right, i hate the other ask many question about my family or work or something like that!  boring , and i wont answer

  • Pete DeMola
    Pete DeMola wrote:

    Maybe we'll organize a weliveinbeiing.com speed dating event.

    Interested?

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    .....!!! you could,,hehe,,and i will attend,,but i dont want to organize...i dislike blind date ..heihei

  • Checkered
    Checkered wrote:

    Hihi Pete, I think that's awesome, Hope I will be in BJ and if you need hand, I would like to be a part of it.

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    aha....there is coming a good idea... pete, do it!

  • Lifeseeker
    Lifeseeker wrote:

    想尝试尝试 貌似挺有意思的

  • Pete DeMola
    Pete DeMola wrote:

    Okay. If you guys are interested, then we'll do it.

    I spoke with a speed dating agency recently, and they're open to the idea.

  • Lifeseeker
    Lifeseeker wrote:

    when? at where?

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    speed dating agency....hahaha....

    more interesting now

  • DJ Bes
    DJ Bes wrote:

  • 樊小陶Cheryl

    弄不好就是极品大串联。。。

  • Mandy Wang
    Mandy Wang wrote:

    没什么可排斥的,这只是寻找爱的一种方式而已,通过朋友亲人介绍还好了,因为大家都彼此信任,那些婚介所通过收费都能做下去。

  • 王小猫
    王小猫 wrote:

    想体验一下。试想,和一个略知对方基本信息的陌生人面对面,两人一起装B找话题,应该是一件很搞笑的事。。。

  • toa
    toa wrote:

    谁跟我相一个(男士免)?

  • Da Fan
    Da Fan wrote:

    我还是更相信随机认识的方式。跟一个完全陌生的人互怀不轨地见面,聊一些装B的,装傻的,不自然的,不疼不痒的问题,想想都觉得搞笑...

  • 尚毅
    尚毅 wrote:

    我有已经对相亲麻木了,有的人还还需点,有的人直接上来就问你家有房子吗,你一个月收入多少。

    我的天,女人怎么就不想问问自己为什么要见这个男人呢

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to 尚毅: 看来你是真相过呢 呵呵

    我没经验 不知道怎么问 也不知道别人问我这些问题的时候我要怎么回答

  • 尚毅
    尚毅 wrote:

    关键这个事情要感觉荒唐,始作俑者有时候是父母,有时候是朋友,不管自己愿意不愿意自己需要见下,履行下别人对自己关心的行动哦。

    但是,最要我气氛的,就是上一个女孩,春节去了她家,而且我买了快一千多元的礼物给她们父母,他父母就和审讯犯人一样,把我家一切都问到了,事后我约了几次她都推了我,后来通过介绍人告诉我我被淘汰了。现在我提搞对象就脑袋发嘛,真不知道对面坐那个姑奶奶口是心非的想什么。

  • Sally
    Sally wrote:

    intresting~~~~~~~

    but i think it have more advantages than disadvantage.s........

  • Pete DeMola
    Pete DeMola wrote:

    To everyone interested in speed dating, we're currently working in coordination with an agency (the Speed Dating Specialists) for an event for you guys. We'll keep you posted as information comes in.

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to 尚毅   hahahahaha   你都去她家 那还叫相亲么?

  • 尚毅
    尚毅 wrote:

    难道你不知道这个叫父母把关吗

    她看完了你,还要给她父母看

  • Man TianFei
    Man TianFei wrote:
    有过好笑的经验,那个男人大我10岁,我的打扮与举止都像太妹,然后他像可刻板的老学究,完全不搭旮的两个人吃顿饭,也不记得说过什么了,基本上男人一有机会都会想在女人身上卡点油。
  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    to  尚毅: 真不知道 我以为是自己处得差不多了才去见父母呢

     

    to  Little Slow: 天那  不是吧 我可以想象两个不搭调的人一起吃饭 但是不能想象 所有男人一有机会就想卡油 感觉不应该呀

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

    ...

    Just for fun ...

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    我来凑到100!!!! 哈哈 我的帖子100咯

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

    ...

    You actually counted it? Congradulation

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    of course didnt count it...hehehehe

    but the website showed itself :P

  • 叮噹叔叔 (令狐叮噹)

    ...

    dont understand!

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    hmm, all the guys in my age i know, are married already

    :P

  • Jem Lim
    Jem Lim wrote:

    it's always better socializing with people, get to know a guy/gal first. go on group dates then start from there. i have nothing against blind dates or online dating though. but for me, it's cool to develop personal connection more than anything.

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

     go on group dates then start from there, that sounds better and more helpful.

     

  • kö
    wrote:

    相亲应该是 家人或者朋友介绍吧···暂时还没有这个经历···见网友倒是见过不少··搞笑的很多··应该说是不靠谱的很多···哈哈··人生就这么充斥着笑料··当然如果是有很正式的相亲的话·我还是需要考虑的··和见网友差不多··只是大家收敛了很多··知根知底的··の···诶··还是再等等吧··我觉得我这辈子指望家人朋友介绍相亲是无望了···

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    @Miranda:  若干年前我也是这么想的 !

     

  • Gary Bao
    Gary Bao wrote:

    I think if you find a girl/guy on the net and ask her/him for a blind date, that would be cool?  if you hv a blind date, who pay for the bill?

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    in blind date, its better to share the bill.

    well, i think my definition of 相亲 is different from  wester definition of “blind date",in china, 想亲 mean you meet without any connection before, not meet a internet friend.

  • 爱谁谁
    爱谁谁 wrote:

    :)  Louisa, i didnt say i will do it!

  • NN
    NN wrote:

    I have never tried .... but in my opinion,that could be fun????

    lol

  • Webslave
    Webslave wrote:

    typical gemini :)

  • NN
    NN wrote:

    Webslave

    20 hours ago

    typical gemini :)

     

    Were u saying me???? 

    If so,seems  u are stalker also :)

  • Webslave
    Webslave wrote:

    me no stalker for sure, just survived one (but she wasnt a gemini).

    but what makes you i were a stalker?! never bothered anyone in my life.

    i said typical gemini because geminis are always curious about unknown things and enthusiastic to try things out.

    but i agree, it could be fun, it also may not, that's why it's called "blind" date, you'll never know.

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