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im getting tired of one of my male coworker keeps joking and flirting with me every now and then! so annoying..eh.....

Posted by Jordan on 7. May 2013

girls, do you have similar problem at work? any advice how to deal with it???
i mean i know he is just joking around when he says "oh you look so attractive today, I wish I didn't get married so early"
well...at first, I thought he was just a funny guy which is a good thing, cuz I like to joke and laugh too, makes work less stressful and more joyful. but not everyday!
now when I hear something like that from him again, like I just called him for work, and before we said goodbye, he said something like 'feel free to call me when you miss me dear'... it's not funny any more dude, and definitely not cool, it makes me sick.
and the thing is i don't know how to stop him from saying things like that effectively without any hard feelings, but if I told him to stop it in a joking way, I guess he wouldn't really stop....
god...don't really know what to do about it.
now I just hope he doesn't come to the office often.



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  • BLACK DYNAMITE

    Just an idea but perhaps you can tell him to stop making jokes in a calm and non-confrontational manner. For example, you could say, "I know you mean nothing harmful by doing it, but it makes me uncomfortable when you flirt with me. It has bothered me for some time. Please stop those kinds of jokes. Thank you." Hope that helps..

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    thanks for the advice, it sounds the right thing to say in this case, but....I don't know if I have the gut to just say that to him cuz if I did, things might get awkward between us. he'd think I am not fun and pretending to be uptight.uhhh....tricky one..

    07 May 2013
  • BLACK DYNAMITE

    Hmm...well to be honest the guy doesn't seem to be very mature. I wouldn't think about talking like that to any lady in my office. There's a time and place for everything. Honestly though, it may not be a bad thing if he stops talking to you altogether., right?

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    well..honestly for now I wouldn't mind him not talking to me, it would be a pleasure to me...but the thing is he is actually a nice guy, and very gentleman at times..and he gives me chololate, what can I do,hahaha..just kidding, im just saying he is a nice guy over all...maybe i should just overlook his inappropriate behavior...

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    or just ignore him when he flirts with me again...

    07 May 2013
  • BLACK DYNAMITE

    Got it. You dislike it when he does it but you don't dislike it enough that you're willing to lose any attention he gives you:-P

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    well...i didn't really think about it that way until now...but now that i think about it, it kinda make sense, i mean of course it's nice to hear someone says you are sexy or pretty, but maybe the problem is he is giving me too much attention right now..and another thing is im not attracted to him AT ALL.. if he was someone who I am attractive to, it will definitely make a difference. not gonna lie about it. BUT!! attractive or not, never too much inappropriate flirtation at work!

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    that's the bottom line.

    07 May 2013
  • BLACK DYNAMITE

    No flirting at work at all....that's my bottom line.

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    yeah...you are right, work is work, there is time and place for everything!

    07 May 2013
  • BLACK DYNAMITE

    Yes. Finally you see it my way :-P Good girl *high five*

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    haha...i live l learn..high five back at cha!

    07 May 2013
  • Godfather

    Okay got it,.. You like his chocolates and flirtations when there’s no other person around but if there’re other guys around you hate his jokes. @Jordan,you’ll not know the value of that guy and his jokes till no one notice you again in the office @BD, be careful.. most Chinese ladies got their Mr. Right and Miss Wrong either from work place or at school.

    07 May 2013
  • BLACK DYNAMITE

    @GF: What's that have to do with me? I'm not a Chinese lady.

    07 May 2013
  • Godfather

    BLACK DYNAMITE: No flirting at work at all....that's my bottom line. about a hour ago · ... This have got something to do with you @BD

    07 May 2013
  • BLACK DYNAMITE

    You said "most Chinese ladies got their Mr. Right and Miss Wrong either from work place or at school." Yeah I know what I said. So its quite clear that since I don't flirt at work I have no need to "be careful". And I'm not a Chinese lady :-P

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    @GF, dude you get me all wrong, i don't like his flirtation whatsoever, thats the reason I posted this in the first place, secondly, that chocolate joke is just a joke, I think everybody gets it except you, no offense. and I do know the value of that guy, like I said, he is a nice guy, i know it, just the flirting I dislike.

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    you are twisting everything we are talking about.

    07 May 2013
  • BLACK DYNAMITE

    It's what he does....

    07 May 2013
  • Godfather

    Escalate the issue.. report to the HR for disciplinary action,.. dont forget to copy this blog to him. He'll NEVER flirt with you again

    07 May 2013
  • Jordan

    thanks for advice, i appreciate it..

    07 May 2013

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